You are the Writer

You are the Writer

Something happened to me today that I have to tell you about.

Writer

WriterAfter my yoga class, a woman came up to me and said these words, “You are the writer? I’ve heard about you from a mutual acquaintance.”

I gulped and after a tiny but probably noticeably awkward pause, I said, “Yep. That’s right. I am.”

Pause

Why the pause? Why the awkwardness? I mean yes I have a chapter published for all to see in a book edited by a chap in England. (You can buy it at all good bookstores everywhere, and online – Amazon). In 3 days from this conversation, I will have published a book, ‘Braving Change’, written all by myself. At the time of writing, I am juggling a few final late edits (it just never stops – the ‘how long is a piece of string?’ syndrome). As you read this I believe that this book will be available for all to purchase.

But enough sales talk. The point of this is - we all (and I reckon ALL is not too strong a word), seem to put ourselves down in this way at least once or twice in our lives. Probably MUCH more often. Why?

Put Down

OK. It is not a positive ‘put-down’ like “I suck,” for example, but denying something or being awkward about admitting it is just as bad? Isn’t it?

Go back over the last 24 hours or 3 days or a couple of weeks and see if you can find a time when you did this. It could be to your children, your significant other, your boss, your mates, anyone. Think about it. Think hard.

Deny

We deny ourselves. All the time. If we fail to accept a compliment or fail to acknowledge something like being a writer for example, or a guitarist, an artist, sculptor, writer or many many other appellations others might give us, or we make an awkward pause before we accept, then we are DENYING ourselves.

Who taught us this was a good idea? Is this rather silly denying action serving us now? In our busy and confusing lives to be something or to be good at something to the point where another notices it and points it out to you is FANTASTIC.

Love Yourself

Don’t go ape over it, but don’t disavow it either. Be cool. Let it happen. Let it flow over you. Bask in its significance. Love it. Love yourself.

I teach positive thinking, change, life coaching stuff and I could not believe that I did this today. To myself. Why? This is such a crock.

Talents

All of us have talents, all of us can do things, the labels that society gives us for the good things we do or what we are, must be accepted, not diminished or worse still pushed away. And an awkward pause IS a pushing away.

Be proud. Stand tall. Admit that yes we are a writer. We are a great mother/father. We can play guitar well even though we are not yet in a band.

Accept

It’s not self-aggrandisement. It is not arrogance, (unless you crow like a rooster). It is humble acceptance of your own very special attributes.

Love Yourself

Love your self, and others will too.

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Ch-Ch-Ch-Ch-Changes

Writing Everyday

Writing Everyday

WritingWriting, journaling or scribing as Hal Elrod calls it in The Miracle Morning, is the final task in the SAVERS morning routine.

Daily Thoughts

The idea is to put down on paper with an actual pen or pencil some thoughts, on a daily basis. Hal Elrod gives you a number of options in an attachment to his ebook, but the problem seems to be that many of his (shall I Call them disciples?) don’t seem to be able to figure it out. What to write, I mean. How to write for the 10 minutes the ritual calls for.

Not your Guru

I don’t profess to be any kind of guru, but I do not seem to have a problem with this task.

Now I reckon this might be because of a number of things that I have read and done, not because I am all that clever.

Write a Book

Firstly, a few years ago I started down a path to write a book. I had no idea what to write about; fiction or not, and not a single notion how to start.

Somewhere I read about a website where you write, electronically, 500 words of anything – often utter drivel - and publish it either in a folder on your computer, or if you were feeling brave on the website or Facebook group. I can’t remember now. I did a bit of both. But the idea was not to write anything of value, just to churn out 500 words (more or less) and leave it at that. Even the stuff published on the web was not to be read, just to prove that you had written it.

The Artist’s Way

Then, not that long ago, I found another really exciting book called “The Artist’s Way” by Julia Cameron. In this book, Julia extolled the virtue of what she called ‘Morning Pages’. The idea behind this again was to write in longhand ANYTHING. Yeah, there were some clues given, but the most exciting and most useful to me as a writer was the need to completely remove yourself as a person writing the material, from the actual result. It wasn’t easy. Took a lot of time to get it to happen consistently. Many mornings writing for a defined number of minutes. Many mornings missing out. But the whole process was just that. A process.

Writing as a Process

In earlier times when I was working, I was a process manager. What happened in any manufacturing process, was that if you put the correct bits and pieces in, carried out the same routines, each and every time, then a result would occur, that was very consistent. Nothing else to it. No emotion. No connection. Just input, action and output.

What am I saying here? Simple. Begin by sitting somewhere quiet and without any distractions, put pen to paper and write words. Don’t lift the pen or even think too much. It’s like meditation. You need to empty your mind of all thoughts and emotions and just let the moving finger write. You will end up with a result.

Raw

Don’t read it back. Don’t edit. Just put words down on paper and off you go. Next task for the day. Job’s done. This is the most important part.

Stuck

It has even been said that if you get stuck just write, “I am stuck. Do not know what to write.” and keep up that until something shakes out. As you are not reading it and there is no point to the writing, other than the actual act of writing, there is no loss, no foul.

No point to the Writing

You did it. Good on you. After some days, weeks, months of this, you might find you can give it some structure and actually write something like I am doing here. But it just flows. This is NEVER the point so don’t stress. Is there a time when structure should take over? NO. If it does. Cool. If not cool too. The whole point is to just write. Period.

Imaginative Story Writing

I did a bit of imaginative writing today – no gratitude, no journal, no diary – a story of sorts. I started with a sentence about dreams. My intent was to follow-up on a discussion I had been involved in the day before with a lady, from the paranormal arena. It didn’t down go down that path at all. It was a story about coffee and a new detective, and a new relationship and an exploding front door. Dunno why. But the same PROCESS was involved. Just the writing, nothing but the writing.

Reptile Brain

There is a direct link between the thinking conscious brain and the hand or keyboard. You need to break that and take the brain out of the equation. Write from the reptile part of your brain if you like. Straight from your hand to the page.

No connection to any actual thinking. After a while it is easy. Must be done every day, though, so as to keep up the momentum. Only 10 minutes. How hard is that really? Well, it is hard. But keep at it.

Writing today

I started writing this the same way. It is not literature but is over 800 words and most of it makes some kind of sense.

Writing Every Day – Journaling

The Teacher will Appear

The Miracle Morning

Goal Setting And How To Do It

Goal Setting And How To Do ItSetting Goals

I have reached a goal. I have finished the first draft of my book. Apart from telling everyone I can think of about the book, in order to cement the ‘doing’ of it into my psyche, I am working on it as often as I can.

The chapter bit was OK, once I figured out what to write, but right now I am doing my usual trick of finding other things to do (anything at all) to avoid beginning the next stage which is re-reading what I have written and getting it ready for my beta readers to get stuck into.

Perfect

It comes down, as I’ve said before, to knowing what to do next and forgetting the ‘it has to be perfect’ mantra. It’s like coming up to a brick wall of thoughts. You can’t get through and you just bounce around like in a kids jumping castle.

Why am I telling you this? And what does it have to do with the goals thing I started talking about? A lot really.

‘Cause, you see, the book is NOT the goal. It is only a bi-product of achieving the real goal.

Get It Done

It doesn’t matter what happens with the book as long as it is finally published. If one follows the process and the steps on a roadmap or checklist (and there are many of these that Dr Google can serve up to you), the end result of a published book is a foregone conclusion. It is not rocket science. It’s not even hard. What is hard is following all the steps. A bit like the 12 step program for those of us unfortunate to have an alcohol problem. All the steps need to be covered. Not always in any prescribed order, and some we can revisit at any time to enhance the end result.

Why This Particular Goal

The idea in goal setting is to take an overview of why you might want to say, write a book, learn a new skill or language, change a habit, get a new job – anything really.

Then devise, or have someone else devise, a specialised 12 step program just for you, just for this particular task or goal. Promise your self and the world at large, if this is appropriate, that you WILL follow this plan, and you will achieve this goal. This result. This outcome.

The Goal Is Not The Goal

Then realize that the goal is NOT the goal. The real goal is to change yourself. To become a different person, someone who deserves this new ‘thing’ that is what you think of as the goal. To become the kind of person who can achieve this consequence from the 12 action steps, for example.

In my case, I need to be the kind of person who CAN write and publish a book. Even if the book is rubbish. Doesn’t matter as it was only a vehicle. It was not the end game and never was.

Many Fall By The Wayside

To digress for a moment – this is where many of us fall by the wayside because we don’t believe we DESERVE the end result for which we are aiming and therefore we do not make it.

But if you follow the steps you will write that book. And at the end of this process, you will have become someone who does deserve it (whatever it might be for you).

Remove Yourself From The Outcome

Now you also have to remove your self from the result. Separate your mind and body from the OUTCOME. Then and only then will you be able to accept that the book or your grasp of Arabic or Chinese does not have to be perfect. It just has to be DONE.

Only then will you be able to move beyond the person you were when you started down this path, and allow yourself to meet the person who you have become. Gidday!

Become The Kind Of Person Who Can

What I mean here is your goal will be to become the kind of person who can follow 12 steps and get to the end. To a book; or a new whatever as we said above. Your goal is personal development, the outcome is a serendipitous result of following the prescribed steps in the program. And getting to the end of it.

You see if you become that person, a second book, skill, language etc becomes easy. You can do it almost on auto-pilot.

Goal: Millionaire

If someone had a goal to become a millionaire and suddenly won the money in a lottery, you know from the newspapers, that few of them keep this money in the long-run. They are NOT millionaires, so that, while the having of that amount of money was a goal for them it was, we now understand, an outcome, a result without the personal development behind it. So they lost it. I know people that this has happened to. Sad but a fact of life.

The Goal Is Not The Goal

Let’s say it again. The goal is NOT the goal. The real goal is to change yourself.

Goals, Change and Process Improvement

Atomic Habits by James Clear

Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. Tiny Changes, Remarkable Results. A revolutionary system to get 1 per cent better every day

Atomic HabitsPeople think when you want to change your life, you need to think big. But world-renowned habits expert James Clear has discovered another way. He knows that real change comes from the compound effect of hundreds of small decisions – doing two push-ups a day, waking up five minutes early, or holding a single short phone call.

He calls them atomic habits.

In this ground-breaking book, Clear reveals exactly how these minuscule changes can grow into such life-altering outcomes. He uncovers a handful of simple life hacks (the forgotten art of Habit Stacking, the unexpected power of the Two Minute Rule, or the trick to entering the Goldilocks Zone), and delves into cutting-edge psychology and neuroscience to explain why they matter.

These small changes will have a revolutionary effect on your career, your relationships, and your life

My 5 take-aways

  1. Goals are about the results you want to achieve. Systems are about the process that leads to those results. As a side note: There are no good habits or bad habits: only effective habits. Ask the question, "Does this behaviour help me become the type of person I wish to be?”
    1. If you want better results, then forget about setting goals, focus on your systems instead
      1. So James Clear says “Fix the inputs and the outputs will fix themselves”.
      2. Create a system of ATOMIC HABITS. An atomic habit is a little habit that is part of a larger system.
    2. Outcomes are about what you get. Processes are about what you do. Identity is about what you believe.

I am focusing on creating a habit of writing. Focussing on who I wish to become. A writer. What about you?

  1. Every belief, including those about yourself, is learned and conditioned through experience
    1. What do you want to stand for? What are your principles and values? Who do you wish to become?

We need to take a deep dive into our psyche (might need a life coach?) to understand what this means for us. What/who do we believe we are? Start by completing the values questionnaire that you will find on this page. It is a great start to finding out what you believe about yourself. Some core values from Mr James Clear.

  1. The 4 laws of behaviour change are as follows:
    1. Cue (Make it obvious), Craving (Make it attractive), Response (Make it easy) Reward (Make it satisfying).

I won’t go into these in much detail. You’ll need to read the book, but suffice to say, you can use these 4 laws to guide you through the minefield of issues standing in the way of your success. Any success. Business, personal, emotional, financial – whatever.

Note that the inversion of each of these rules can be used to break ineffective habits.

  • Take the cue from something you WANT, really want, and make it, in your mind, really obvious that this is the way you need to go. Lose weight for example.
  • Then convert this into a craving. Make the whole deal attractive, ie kinda like WHY you want it. To be the best looking guy/girl on the beach. See it. Feel it. Smell it. Hear what people say. You know what I mean.
  • Respond to these feelings by taking action. For this to happen – it must be easy. No one will do anything for long if it is tedious. This is where small comes in. Start with having only half a glass of wine with dinner or half a serving of dessert. (If weight loss is your goal).
  • Finally, you need a reward. (Not another chocolate biscuit) Think of something you really like, say an extra hour in bed with a good book? Something that will make you feel good. Do it. Don't miss it. This is very important. That’s it.
  1. Use triggers to help you. If that happens- do this. Do things at a specific time each day. (I write 700 words each morning before breakfast. Doesn’t matter what I write it is the process that counts.) Then try stacking one habit upon another. After I do that – do this. Make the environment work for you. Put pill bottles next to your bed, for example, so you’ll get into the habit of taking your pills before you go to sleep.

Remember the 2-minute rule. When you start a new habit, it should take less than 2 minutes to do.

  1. Finally, Surround yourself with people who have the habits you want to have yourself. Have an accountability partner or mentor. This is a fundamental law of personal development.

There is much, much more. The book is full of lists, exercises, references and stories to which we can all relate. Look for the paper clip strategy for example, and see how it can work in your life. A strategy about habit tracking.

Management thinker Peter Drucker is often quoted as saying that “you can't manage what you can't measure.” Drucker means that you can't know whether or not you are successful unless success is defined and tracked.

Check out the Goldilocks rule. What the? Yep, it's a real thing. Look for it in ch.19.

Summary

Make one small change and repeat it over time. A new habit will be formed, almost un-consciously. This is awesome stuff.
Read ‘The Slight Edge’ by Jeff Olsen and David Mann.

5 Key Take-Aways 7 Favourite Self-Help / Personal-Development Books

Fiverr

Fiverr

Fiverr

G'day.

Interesting. I just said the word Fiverr when I started this article which I read into Evernote; and Evernote knew to put the extra ‘r’. More about that in a moment.

Affiliate

Today I joined Fiverr as an affiliate. Now I don't know if this affiliate business is a new thing or not. Fiverr has been around since 2010, it provides an eBay like platform for entrepreneurs and/or freelancers to offer their services to customers worldwide.

Gig

You think you can do something? Provide a service? Then create a profile and upload a ‘gig’. (that's what they are called), onto the platform and someone may buy what you are offering. All gigs must charge $5 US or more. Hence the name Fiverr. The extra ‘r’, I'm told, is because, as you might expect, when they tried to use the name Fiver it was already taken. Much hipperr and coolerr anyway.

You can offer a service, or buy a service just like eBay. Of course Fiverr takes a small-ish commission (currently 20%) from every sale. Many people love it. “Hey, I got this cute tune I play on my guitar, can anyone think of some lyrics that might go with it?” Fantastic.
Or the reverse.
“I have this song, these lyrics, can someone write me a melody?” Or someone might be good at generating graphics or short (even long) writing pieces for advertising copy or blog posts. Stick em up on Fiverr and away we go.

Platform

It seems with the huge number of services listed (more than 5 million) it would be hard to make a quid - too much competition, but there are many people earning a full-time living using Fiverr and nothing else. Of course there are many complain that it doesn't work. Actually it doesn't. You have to work. Fiverr is just a platform.

I read about a guy who claimed he couldn't steal enough time from as full-time job to service his fibre clients properly. So he gave it up. (Fiverr that is not his job) and he complained that he couldn't make enough money from Fiverr. Fiverr’s fault of course.

On-Line Service

It's another one of these online services which have mushroomed over the last 10 or so years Uber Airbnb etc.

Clever idea. I seem to think I was a member a while back. Didn't know that you could join as an affiliate. What that means is that you (meaning me for the purposes of this article), promote the Fiverr platform on a webpage (this blog post), social media and anywhere else we can think of.

Awareness

This means making people aware of the platform - it's not a secret but, as with many things like this, it has a specialised audience.

These people may sign up as a buyer, or seller and perhaps even, if you are lucky, they buy a service you get a kick-back for this. Cool baby!

Fear of Change eBook

Fear Mongering

Fear Mongering

Fear mongering in particular on social media with a side serving of the news.Fear Mongering

Agenda

I think the main problem is figuring out what the agenda is for those were stirring up the fear. For politicians, it’s easy to understand. Fear will help them get elected and then they will have power and money. Powerful incentives to generate fear amongst the voters. “I will help you and ALL the others will make your life a misery.” Well, we don’t want misery, so we vote out of fear.

Not Politicians

But what about others? In an example I saw just the other day - What did the authors get out of writing about how we are being lied to, their words, by those in charge of our food production? And how these five (read any number here) foods are bad for us? What is in it for them I wonder? I am addicted to NOT being in fear, so I didn’t read any further. But later I wished I had because I wondered if there was a reason I wasn’t been aware of, from the heading, for this kind of story. What was their expected result? Was there any expectation or was this just fear-mongering for its own sake?

I guess a cynic would not believe what is being written without some kind of background info check but the ‘great-unwashed’ (you and me generally) well, we often just believe what is being spouted and fear raises its ugly head.

Fear is Fear inducing

It's fear of fear as Timothy Ferriss implies in his book “The 4 Hour Work Week”.

Ferriss, Timothy. (2011). The 4 Hour Work Week. London: Ebury Digital

We become afraid of fear itself even if we have no particular argument with the topic. Of course, you would have had to read the whole article, but I for one have better things to do with the 20 mins it takes to read. I mean if I don't eat the foods they are bashing why am I frightened? Not sure. But I am.

Doubt

Fear of fear again, I guess. The result is that we begin to doubt stuff in our lives, all kind of stuff. A bit like spooks around every corner and the Reds under the bed scare of the Cold War era and beyond.

Once we succumb to this fear of fear itself, positivity and our gratefulness for our lives are eroded and we are left in a sea of doubt, uncertainty, vulnerability and fear. No proof is needed. We are afraid.

That is really quite sad. Particularly if there is nothing to back up the stories.

Selling

Is the author selling us something? Other than his own insecurities? And his own unfounded fear? If you don’t question the likely truth, the background to the opinion, the credentials of the author, then you are letting yourself be sucked into the morass of fear.

I challenge each and every one of you. Next time you read an extremely negative story on Social Media or the TV or in a newspaper (online or onpaper) ask yourself the following questions:

TLC *

True – Is what you are reading true? I mean is there some proof? What are the FACTS behind the opinion piece? What are the credentials of the person making the claims? How can we verify the so-called facts? Are they really only trying to sell you something and not letting the truth stand in the way of a good story?

Once we have answered these questions we will quite possibly have to discount the article right there, If it's not true or can’t be verified. Then forget it.

LogicalDoes the whole thing make sense? Is it logical or perhaps just some sales pitch or wishful thinking. Do the arguments follow on from each other? Or is it only a disjointed series of pseudo-facts dressed up to look and sound good?

If our answers to these questions throw the logic of the comments into question, even if the ideas seem to be true as discussed above, then the article might not be worthy of any more of your valuable time.

Constructivefinally. Is the information constructive? By that I mean is it looking for the positives or focussing on mainly negatives? Nothing is wholly wrong. Right and wrong are two sides of the same coin. There are usually as many positive aspects of any situation than there are negative. If any article is not offering a way forward but is only tearing down an institution or person, or situation, idea or belief – even though it might be true (verified) and makes sense – it is again not worth time invested in it.

Think

Most information we consume does not follow the TLC regime. If something we are reading or being told fails ANY ONE of these tests, it is more than likely fear-mongering.

We really ought to keep these questions/answers in mind when we share, like or repeat the stuff we read, watch, or are told. We might be perpetuating fear instead of imparting useful information.

*The TLC acronym comes from a book I read and loved a short while ago.

Estacio, Emee Vida. (2018). Imposter Syndrome Remedy: How to improve your self-worth, feel confident about yourself, and stop feeling like a fraud! (Psychology in your life Book 2). California, USA: CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform.

The Imposter Syndrome Remedy

Fear of Change eBook

Fear of Change eBook

“Fear of Change” eBook

Within the next 6 weeks or so I will be publishing my first full book. (I already have a published chapter in the book of which I spoke in an earlier post).

Change

All Me, Quotes and History

This will be just me. And a lot of quotes from, I guess you’d call then my mentors, (although I have not actually met any of them), and help from my Face Book friends.

This book will investigate change through the eras from the Stone Age through until today. Did you know Plato (428BCE to 348BCE) thought writing and books sucked? More About that in Ch 3.

Covering 50 Shades of Change

This book will look at many different types of changes, and the reactions of people of all ages, races, walks of life and all socioeconomic strata, to find out why we fear this change thing.

What is it we fear, and what can we do about it will be discussed.

Some options will be canvassed and further readings suggested.

I’m expecting it to be about 15-20K words and sell for about $0.99c. Should be a bestseller in no time?

Beta Readers

A lot closer to publication time, I will be calling on a few of my friends, colleagues and/or acquaintances to have a bit of a look as beta readers or whatever you want to call them, and provide me with some positive feedback (positive doesn’t mean feedback all has to be good – far from it, I will need all the help I can get, but “this book sucks” is not really very effective nor helpful feedback. Right?) Just sayin’.

Any Ideas?

While we are on the feedback thing, if anyone out there reads this and reckons they have some questions about Fear or Change or Fear of Change, let it all hang out. Hit me up with some stuff I can put in the book. You might even get your name in it. My Yoga instructor has secured a chapter heading quotation under her name. This could be you.

Anyhoo, you may think of something you reckon I ought to address in the book (what you see here is a very, very limited synopsis) send it in, and ya never know.

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Ch-Ch-Ch-Ch-Changes

Coffee as an Agent of Change

New Kind of Alarm Clock

New Kind of Alarm Clock

I’ve found a new Alarm Clock. I think. My bladder.

alarm clock

Backtrack

Let’s go back for a moment.

Recently I’ve been following my doctor’s orders (no mean feat in itself) and doing my level best to drink approx 2 litres of water each day. Unfortunately, (or perhaps fortunately as you’ll see from what follows), I manage to finish the last 500ml only about an hour before bed at let’s say 11.00pm.

Right. Now to the point of all of this.

Bathroom/Toilet Call

At somewhere between 5.00am and 6.00am I awake, finding that I need to go to the bathroom/toilet.

Aside: I am a retired chap and don’t have to get up for a JOB, but I have so much to do, I really need to get up not much later than 7.30 to fit it all in.

Anyhoo.

I reckon if you are awake enough to go to the toilet at this time in the morning and not pee on the floor or in the closet, then you are awake. Go ahead and do your Miracle Morning routine (wash face, brush teeth, comb hair, use mouthwash etc) and get on with your SAVERS ritual. If you don’t know what this means, check out the links below.

Obviously, I am speaking as a guy here, I guess it’s not a whole lot different for the ladies amongst us – except for the floor, Oh yeah and the closet – but you get my meaning. You are awake enough to pee, you are awake enough to get up. Damn it, you are already up. Why wreck this and go back to bed?

No Alarm Clock

You won’t need an alarm clock stashed somewhere other than the bedside table, that you have to dash for before all hell breaks loose. You have been doing this (getting up for the bathroom), most of your life, so not waking up a partner is already taken care of.

Back To The Sack

What has been happening to me, until very recently, is that because it is not alarm time – I have headed back to the sack. What occurs about 90 mins later, when the alarm goes off, is the snooze button gets a workout and I end up rising at say 8.00am or 8.30am or something. A late start to my day. Sometimes VERY late and I feel washed out for most of what’s left of the morning.

Do It

Give it a try. Turn off the alarm, drink water about an hour before bed (visit toilet just before sleeping – a 2.00am call spoils the whole thing) and let your body/bladder be your NEW alarm clock. You’ll wake up when you need to; not at some arbitrary time decided by a noisy alarm.

How does that sound?

Give it a go for a few days/weeks and let us all know how it works for you.

Nanna Naps

We can talk about nanna naps another time.

The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod

The Miracle Morning And Your Why

Values – Be A Better Person

Values: How To Be A Better Person Using Values

Happiness is that state of consciousness which proceeds from the achievement of one's values.
Ayn Rand 1905 - 1982, US Russian-born novelist and Philosopher.

Values are often founded on our beliefs and the rules we associate to these. Values are what we have decided to hold onto. Values describe individual or personal standards. Values are emotional states which we want to experience. Values are waypoints on the map of our life. And they are merely thoughts. Figments of our imagination.

Values

Values

Everyone has values - They are important and often unconsciously developed; meaning we may not be aware of what they actually are but they are still running our life. What's with that?

Values are the present or current state of our thinking, not a goal – they are an end point, not a journey or a means – and they are a feeling/emotion you want to experience on a regular basis but not something you are aiming for or moving toward.

Values may have bubbled up out of the primordial soup of our life up to now. They are, according to the dictionary: principles, ethics, moral code, morals, standards, codes of behaviour. Stuff like that.

They are what we think is important in our lives. Perhaps a bit like the ingredients list required when baking a cake. Everything is based on them, can't happen without them, but what you do with them is entirely up to you.

Standards

Personal standards are nothing more than a set of behaviours. They are the set of behaviours that we have decided to live by. While the dictionary definition of values contains the word standards, it is better to think of these as the way, through our behaviours and actions, we embody or represent our values.

The manner in which we live is usually a reflection of our personal standards, or to put it another way what we are prepared to put up with. We often We have to step out of our comfort zone if we wish to raise our standard
If, for example, one of my values is Learning, I would ensure that I am open to new things and this would set the standard for my daily pattern of life. I do not seek 'sameness', but raise my sights and my standards so that I come away from each day's endeavour with something new. No matter what is presented to me, I find a way to learn from it. That is espousing the value of learning and the increasing the standards by which I carry on my day to day business. What did you learn today becomes my daily mantra.

Tony Robbins

According to Anthony Robbins - life values are:

• your Personal Compass. Values guide our every decision and, therefore, our destiny.
• a personal / life value is something that is very important to you; that is a principle that you will live by no matter what happens.
• generated from a mixed bag of experiences, of lifelong conditioning through punishment and reward.
• the cause of difficulty making an important decision: you can be sure that it's a result of not being clear about your values.

Robbins further divides values into two different categories:

• Moving-toward values which are those where pursuing a reward or pleasure is paramount. For example: common sense, self-respect, integrity, making a difference, freedom, learning, significance, humour.
• Moving-away-from values which are those where avoiding punishment or pain is the main objective. Things like: rejection, anger, frustration, loneliness, depression, failure, humiliation, guilt.

Evaluating Values

Not all values are equal. There is, and needs to be a hierarchy – some you will follow in one set of circumstances and some in others. Some are more important. A bit like “Animal Farm”. 'All animals are equal, but some animals are more equal than others'.

• Avoiding 'values conflict' is vitally important. For example, Health/Vitality might be a top value for you, but Fun/Happiness as a value within the same hierarchy might suggest late nights with friends - eating and drinking too much and not feeling like exercise in the morning. These two values cannot co-exist for very long without some heavy pain. You be the judge.
• Similarly, if your top moving-toward value is Success, and your top moving-away-from value is Rejection then you are setting yourself up for a major conflict. And a major failure.

◦ A person trying to achieve the pleasure of success without ever experiencing the pain of rejection will never succeed in the long term.

Another example: Honesty and Integrity may be in conflict at times too. If being honest about a situation would result in pain and suffering for another person, but your value of Integrity forbids that type of action – then how do you deal with that? Perhaps you replace Honesty with Integrity or juggle the hierarchy to get them both to work?

In a time of war, for example, on being captured by an enemy you may be asked, “Are you alone?” If you are with another soldier, the answer, “Yes.” is dishonest, but may save a colleague who has not as yet been detected. The answer, “No.” will invariably end up in the capture of someone else. A situation probably best avoided in a war scenario. Integrity, as a value, allows a person to be dishonest in this circumstance and still remain true to their higher standard.

Figure out your current values. Remember they are not real. They are just something that you chose or was chosen for you to live by. If they don't match your current life. Get rid of them. Find new ones. Just pick one or more value words from the list available at one of the following websites:

400 values Barrie Davenport.
Values - Steve Pavlina

Just make a decision. Don't over think. Choose from the lists.

Final Words

As usual with this kind of thing, values are nothing if not applied to your life. They are building blocks, pieces of the jig-saw, maps. The whole point of any of these discussions is becoming the best person you can possibly be.

Take this knowledge and use it.

Check your values. Do you know what they are? Are there any conflicting values, or are some of your older values incompatible with the new you. The person you are now, or want to be in the future?

This must always be about how to get better results at work or home, how to have a better relationship, how to be a better parent etc. Values per se are nothing, they exist only as the basis for the standards by which you live. They define the essence that makes up the person that you are.

Bring your life into sharper focus with values.

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Finding Yourself

Miracle Morning For Writers

The Miracle Morning For Writers by Hal Elrod & Steve Scott

The Miracle Morning For Writers by Hal Elrod and Steve Scott

Sub-titled “How To Build A Writing Ritual That Increases Your Impact And Your Income.”, this is a book for all budding writers.

Miracle Morning For Writers

I am more than ¾ through this wonderful book and have highlights on almost every page. Many pages I ended up tagging the whole page. So many gems. And Links? Did I say Links? Yep, almost every page has links to other resources you can use to add to the information included.

In The Beginning

The first chapter or two contains a run-down of The Miracle Morning SAVERS ritual as espoused by Hal in ‘The Miracle Morning’, and the different perspective is amazing. I thought I understood TMM, but this book gave me new insights, and I hadn’t at that time even reached the point where it actually spoke about writing. I wasn’t disappointed. It was the same only different as my daughter used to say many years ago.

Series

There is a whole series of these books based on different issues Hal figured needed to be addressed, and the best thing about ALL these books is the list of short, easy to follow steps that lead you, inexorably to the result that has probably been eluding you for so long.

Just follow the yellow brick road to success. Steps are logical, common sense, achievable, but they require faith in yourself and in the process, not to mention the extraordinary focused effort necessary to make sure the steps are understood and followed.

Summary

"The Miracle Morning for Writers" combines Elrod's global phenomenon with Steve Scott's proven writing habit techniques (which helped him get on the Wall Street Journal bestsellers list). You learn how to take charge of your morning and maximize "the rest of the day" for your writing efforts.

That is all you need. “Miracle Equation next on my list, then “Millionaire. Can’t wait.

The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod         The Miracle Morning And Your Why

Miracle Morning and Why #3

The Miracle Morning SAVERS And Your WHY #3

The Miracle Morning SAVERS & WHYMiracle Morning SAVERS and Your Why

Last time we talked about picking a why.

What do we want to change?

We chose grief at losing a loved one and spoke about how we could apply the six parts of SAVERS (well 5 + exercise) to help us deal with the seven stages of grief. It might have been a tad complicated so let's break it down even more. After we have figured out what it is we want to change in our lives, what pain we want to eliminate, what we need to be, do or have to move on to a new life, we need a tool to help us.

SAVERS A Tool

Enter The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod. The SAVERS routine is just a tool. It is a series of thoughts and actions set out in easily understood, easily remembered, and easily followed steps that will lead us to our chosen new habits, customs and beliefs.

While it is recommended that the whole six steps be undertaken daily, seven days a week, before 8 a.m. - that is not necessary for it to work. Sure if you only hit a nail one time, once a week, it will take a while to nail up a plank - let alone build a house.

WHY

Comes back to WHY. If you need or want a house badly enough you'll hit the nail a few more times. Won't you?

A tool doesn't need you to feel guilty if you forgot to use it today, or used it to hit the nail so that it goes in crooked, in fact it (the tool) couldn't care less. The only problem messing with the steps, missing a day, a step or a week; is the length of time it takes to make the routine a habit, and the longer before you get what you really want.

SAVERS Technique

The early morning is a technique to get these new habits all done and out of the way before your day starts when time for this kind of thing is very hard to come by.

If your life is not the 9-5 routine of many of us, then remember this comment. Get it done and dusted whenever you can. The closer you can make the ritual/routine to that outlined in the book, the more likely it will generate the habits etc of which we spoke.

Rinse and Repeat

The number of repetitions must be just that - repeats. If you continue to mix it up every time you do it, it will not become a habit. We are assuming that The Miracle Morning is not an end in itself - just like a hammer or a shovel is not the end result. The point of the whole business is a house or a hole.

Practise

Funnily enough, the more you practise hitting the nail, or digging the hole, the easier it becomes; the better you get at using the tool, and the sooner you reach your goal. Particularly if you continue doing it as closely as possible the same way each time allowing for incremental improvements as you go, of course.

Ease The Pain

We are really aiming for our goal: that is ease the pain of the WHY, or increase the pleasure that you will get eg from your new home. The complete picture then is

  1. Find your why. What hurts you or what pleasure you want.
  2. Choose a tool to help you get to this, in our case The Miracle Morning.
  3. Use the tool, as well as you can, as often as you can, until you reach your goal.

SAVERS Repetition

Remember the repetition business. After say 30 or 60 days the ritual will be so ingrained in your daily life it will be a habit, a custom and a belief system that will continually and consistently lead you to a new 'way of life'. Does that make sense? Yes or yes?

Our tool is something we use to make life easier. The goal is the endgame, not the use of the tool per se.

Please don't feel guilty if you mess up (that in itself is a subjective assessment).

Don’t Give Up

The tool doesn't care. You lose if you give up. The relative urgency of the goal or endgame is what determines the outcome. If you are burying treasure so your friends, or the police, won't find it, you'll use that shovel - rain, hail or shine, day or night to get the job done.

The tool helps, and the hole becomes the first step. Hiding the treasure is the the final result. If you are digging to plant a tree and it's raining, "Oh well, tomorrow will do". Job's still done, just took a little longer.

Not An An End

The Miracle Morning SAVERS routine is a tool to get where you want to be. It's not an an end in itself.

The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod

The Miracle Morning And Your Why

The Miracle Morning And Your Why #2

Killing Time by Elleby Harper

Killing Time by Elleby Harper

Gee, there's not much you can say about this one without giving away too much. It's a very intricate and very heavily intertwined plot. Can I say there are two ways of interpreting 'Killing Time'?

This is another one of those books that you love to hate. You start reading it in the afternoon and stay up all night to finish. The people that I had an appointment with the next morning were somewhat less than impressed at my sleepy demeanour. But it was worth it. A great read.

One of the many gems from the book. "Kristian hit Times Square and let himself drift along 47th Street towards the motel. The consumerist theme park's blinking neon signs enticed him to spend money."

Miracle Morning and Why #3

The Miracle Morning And Your Why #2

The MIracle MorningThe Miracle Morning And Your Why #2

The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod and your WHY. Previously we spoke about the SAVERS routine and the fact that this is, or can become,  a 'way of life'. We looked at the difficulties and The Guilt involved in making it so.

Other Books to Consider

'Atomic Habits', a book by James Clear will help you with this. As well as 'The One Thing' by Gary Keller. That will also be very useful. They were for me. But 'Start With Why',  'Find Your Why' by Simon Sinek et alia might be the initial answer to your prayers. Have a look. See what you think.

Habits – What Hurts You

No habit can be created, no customs can become part of your new life, no beliefs can be entered into your heart mind and soul, without understanding the following: "Why am I doing this in the first place? What is the point? Where is this taking me? Is there a reason? Why?"

Some writers have even given these letters added information making the word an acronym. What. Hurts. You.

Pleasure and Pain

Let's look at this for a moment shall we? What hurts me? Since we are always looking to gain pleasure or avoid pain according to Tony Robbins, and avoiding pain is predominant, then that is a good place to start. What pain are we trying to avoid?  Loss is a big one. Job, possessions, loved ones, money. That's the Big 4 right there. There are others but we'll stay with these for the moment. Pick one. Loved ones for example.

Loss of a Loved One

To avoid the pain of a loss of a loved one either by death or separation, we need to accept the loss. We can understand this process by referring to the Kubler Ross model (the 7 stages of grief - shock, denial, guilt, anger, depression and finally reconstruction).

Savers and Loss

Let’s apply the SAVERS ritual to each of these stages.

Always starting with a Silent centering 10 minutes. I'll talk with you later about this one. But for now just focus on some physical things like breathing, listening - intently, noticing smells, relaxing parts of the body consciously one bit at a time etc, and the 10 minutes will fly by.

Your Affirmations, the A in SAVERS can positively address each of these 7 stages for one week at a time. Affirming that we understand each stage and that we are going to work out how to deal with it.

Visualising follows this; see and experience in your mind’s eye, a new 'way of life' without the person or people in it. Again, more in a later post. Next is doing some -

Reading about the particular stage with which you are dealing, and then

Scribing/writing for 10 minutes. I recommend this writing be about things for which you are grateful.

Oh. I missed Exercise. I do this myself, out of sequence, at the end, as it energizes me to get off my butt and into action for the day.

7 Weeks

This is a 7-week program for just one chosen WHY. What Hurts You. The loss of a loved one can be a huge WHY.

If you maintain this for let's say, only 5 days per week, we have 35 days of practice. Note I didn't say 'continuously - seven days per week' that is often not realistic. 35 days is just over halfway to establishing a habit. A habit using the newly minted Miracle Morning routine/ritual to bring you to a new acceptance of the grief you are experiencing.

Now repeat this for another 35 days and you will have finalised a new habit. Your Morning Miracle routine will be embedded into your lifestyle. And relating it to a big WHY - loss of a loved one - has given you a tool to use to help you come to terms with, in this case, 'grief'.

Long Term – New Outlook

The long term effects will be a new outlook on life. A new 'way of life' if you will. Life after grief.

The Miracle Morning And Your Why

The Miracle Morning And Your Why

The MIracle MorningRecently I have been thinking about the book by Hal Elrod The Miracle Morning! His SAVERS routine is seen by many as a new 'way of life'. I'm not sure. What is this 'way of life'? The dictionary says: "the habits, customs and beliefs of a particular person or group of people, something that affects all parts of someone's life." So perhaps it is. A 'way of life' that is. A lifestyle.

Monkified

I must admit, I often thought of a 'way of life' as exemplified by a kind of monkified existence. Away from the extravagances of distraction. No electronics, no Netflix binges, no people who are not like minded, and no need to be involved in the basic more material things of life we mere mortals have to put up with. I then wondered, “Who does the bloody dishes, cooks the meals, counts the money, pays the bills with said money? In fact, who deals with the horrific generation of the aforementioned filthy lucre?”

The Miracle Morning and A Way OF Life

I couldn't answer my own questions. Who does? Nup. Nothing. So maybe a 'way of life' is not so esoteric. Maybe it's a much more down to earth. Perhaps it's just habits, customs and beliefs. Therefore The Miracle Morning SAVERS routine is a 'way of life'. But does that make it easy? How do you make it happen day after day week in week out.

Habits

Some research has pointed out that it can take  66 days before a new behavior becomes automatic.

In one study, it took anywhere from 18 days to 254 days for people to form a new habit. Assuming this SAVERS activity is new to you, then new habits must be learned. Customs are easier, I guess. You become accustomed to doing something over a period of time? (the definition suggests a long time), such that it becomes a common practice, a repeated practice, a convention if you will. That'd work. And all of this, together with the understanding that it is good for you and will be beneficial in the long run even without any empirical proof, can make for a belief. Therefore we have a way of life.

Simple

But this does not make it easy. Simple perhaps, but not that easy. It must be kept up for a long time, the SAVERS routine that is, for it to become a habit, a custom and eventually a belief. What does all this mean to us in the 21st century? We have distractions galore. How can this become a 'way of life'? This one hour routine every single morning from now until death do us part?

Life Gets In The Way

It can, is the simple answer. Even when life gets in the way: family, sickness, work, shift work, holidays, travel, hangovers to name a few obviouse starting points. Whenever any of these intrude into the development of your new 'way of life'; your resolve crumbles and you beging to think that a new habit, custom or belief is not forthcoming – therefore, neither is a 'way of life'. How do we address this? So called ‘failure’ for any one day instigates The Guilt Trip Syndrome. I am a lapsed Catholic - we know all about guilt, more than anyone else in the whole wide world. And guilt is a self defeating mechanism. "I missed a day. It'll NEVER become a habit. I am worthless," and in a trice 2.5 weeks of faithfully following the SAVERS ritual falls apart. "Oh dear. No new 'Way of Life' for me."

WHY

But. I figure that there must be a way to move past and through this sense of failure - I missed day, got a letter out of order or missed one letter on a particular day. Or didn't do it all in the morning. It is The Miracle Morning is it not?

There is. It's your WHY.

Change and The Miracle Morning, 

Miracle Morning Revisited

Coffee as an Agent of Change

Coffee as an Agent of Change

Coffee as An Agent of ChangeI woke up this morning with my mind on fire. 6.30 in the am and nothing was going to keep me in bed today. The alarm wasn’t even due to crank out its unrelentingly, electronically shitful, but cheery, clarion call for at least 30 mins, however, I couldn’t wait.

My morning routine beckoned: glass of water (already beside my bed), bathroom, face-wash, clean teeth, mouth-wash, followed by silent meditation. A few other rituals ensued, then some personal development reading before my first writing exercise for the day. The latter at my desk. My computer began its waking up sequence about this time as well. Oh yeah, the writing was, in unreadable longhand, in my A4 project book with the 18mm dotted lines. A joy to behold.

By now I was getting excited about what I had prearranged for the day the night before. Spreadsheets to be filled out, emails to be written and answered, planning for a number of undertakings my crazy brain had served up for me during the night which I was now recalling. In great detail. Breathe.

OK. Pause.

It had been like this for a few months now, ever since I realised that there were only 20 years left. I mean, 20 years before this frenetic lifestyle I wished to lead might not be possible. I keep thinking of new adventures I want to have, new places I must see, new ideas I find continuously cropping up which beg to be explored. New music to listen to. New theatrical ventures to pursue and, yes, many new articles, blogs and even books I just have to write.

So much to do. So little time, goes the cliché.

Let us begin.

Oh My!

One of the issues with having so much going on in a brain, is where to start? What happens first? Sorting, culling prioritising – many tasks each seeming to have a mind of its own, calling out. Me first!

I started. It was a bit like pushing your hands into the balls in the Tattslotto sphere and pulling out a number. OK. That’ll do. Let’s make that the first one.

And so it continues.

You know when you meditate - how you seem to spend most of your time catching thoughts as they propel themselves across the sphere of your mind? How you struggle to keep the external world from ruining the moment?

It’s a bit like that with me and my mental madness. All attempts to keep a single focus fail. I start a task and another muscles its way onto the floor. “Too much”, I cry.

Another rumble in the nest of balls. Another idea to follow-up. What about this one? Oh yes! A new shiny thing. Something else to end up not completed. Another thread to catch as it flutters in the breeze of nothingness.

Suddenly, a loud insistent whistling sound permeates the air. I breath again, and to myself, I sigh. The realisation hits me. It is, finally, time for coffee.

Career Change Strategy

Career Change Strategies

Career Change

Plan

A Career Change Strategy is just that: a plan relating to changes in a career.

Does this mean changing a job? What is a career anyway?

What is a Career?

We need to establish this before we talk about change. A job is, simply put, swapping time for money. Jobs can be short-term, long-term, highly or lowly paid, contract or direct employment. They can be based on love or just expediency. They can require a lot, a little, or no training and or experience. But, I guess, the main differentiator is passion. A career is something that a person follows because they really LOVE what they are doing and consider it more than ‘just a job’.

Short or Long

A career is almost always long-term, but not always as a self employed person, and not always with a single employer. Careers are usually, if not in one’s own company or as an entrepreneur, involved in the same or similar industries. A career in IT for example may span, over time, a number of different companies, some small, some large, and sometimes even departments within larger companies where IT may or may not be the core activity.

Career Change is A New Path

A career change perhaps suggests a new path. Something different from that which you have been pursuing for the last period of your life. A new job perhaps; but more than that. A new kind of work is being undertaken. A new passion being followed. From IT to engineering for example. That kind of change will likely involve more training, but that should not be an issue since it is only too late to begin something new when you cease breathing.

Career Change Strategy - Some Ideas

A career change may involve moving from employment to contracting, or starting a business, or following an entrepreneurial bent in a new direction. There are many ways to see this happening. Moving into speaker or training mode in the same industry segment as a previous career is an example.

If a career minded person was to take on the task of, say,managing various groups as a new business eg, as an agent or a procurer for their current career choice, that could well be a career change while they remain within the boundaries of their current path.

Add to The Mix

One of the other options is to keep doing what you are doing but add something else into the mix. Sometimes referred to, somewhat unfortunately, as a ‘Side Hustle’. Network Marketing is an example of this.

The Muse

Another idea many people have been known to follow is the muse. It has been said we all have a book in us. Fiction or not. But a book none-the-less. It's probably true, as each one of us has had, or is still having hopefully, a unique path through life. Our own life experiences: sadness, happiness, disaster, adventure, success, failure, training, jobs, careers, people we've known. Perhaps events we've been part of, things we’ve owned etc and there is something in all of that which makes for a great story, which can be just entertainment or even a learning experience we’ve had that we might feel the need to impart to others. It's true. Everyone has something to say.

But how do you make this happen?

Ways To Make This Writing Change Happen

There are many webinars, online courses, live seminars for example dedicated to make this happen. Some promising a book in 48 hours. Over a weekend retreat. Lots of books have been written about how to make it happen. And, of course, electronic publishing (self publishing) has become a viable option. Amazon has created a massive opportunity for many of us (options even include training videos) and a real career change might be to write that story. Get that book out of you.

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CHANGE – Cannot be Avoided

What is this Change of which you Speak?

What is Change?

ChangeWhat is Change? Today we will look at our plans for these articles, and what is likely to be on the list to be discussed.

Changes Are Everywhere

Changes, as we have already become aware, are everywhere. Over the next weeks, months even years perhaps, I am going to discuss different types of change; different ways of approaching change. Different books about change, blogs, vlogs, articles, and podcasts will be looked at and investigated.

Embrace/Resist

Hopefully, over time, those of you who know and embrace change in all of its forms will go, "Right on. That's what it's all about". And those of you who are ‘resistors’, may notice that while you don't agree with all changes, you don't disagree with them all either. You may also become aware of the reasons why you resist the changes you do, and take action where appropriate, to accept changes you don't like particularly when they are totally out of your control.  And take action, where appropriate to do so, whenever you can; to make things happen differently when change is within your control. This may be finding acceptable alternatives to proposed changes, having changes cancelled, or perhaps just finding ways to let them be, at least for the time being.

Books

I'll discuss books like 'Habits of Highly Effective People', '30 days to change your habits', 'Atomic Habits',  ‘How to break a Habit' and many more, because habits are often the cause of resistance to change or the reason we may not be able to do something different, to change a behaviour. Then we'll look at books about change itself, 'The PAME code', 'Imposter Syndrome', ‘Switch’, 'Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway', and many more. Our journey will include book reviews of the books already mentioned plus heaps of others.

Corporate Change Management

Then we will look at various corporate change management policies and how changes planned, unplanned and technological are handled at the business level.

Other Stuff

We might look at politics - a bit. Then how changes occur historically in all areas will get quite a few mentions. We will cover social, educational, entertainment, health, well-being, fashion, legal, physical changes and a lot of others that we may discover together along the way.

Your Ideas

You may make some topic suggestions. You, the readers of my meanderings, may have some ideas that come to mind as we move through the list above. Let me know in the comments.

And What About?

We will discuss changes that have been brought about by protests, by legislation, by financial decisions, by medical research and, just - because. We might look at wars and conflicts to discuss what, if any, changes were caused by them. And were these changes seen to be good or bad. Remembering that in wars and often in corporate areas, history is written by the victors. So any changes here are already being portrayed in a subjective fashion.

We'll look at music and it's appreciation by our communities and others. 'Rock and Roll will never last' was one quote . We'll look at technology. 'There will never be a market for more than 5 computers'. (An unfortunate misunderstanding of remarks to an IBM stockholders meeting in 1953).

Didn’t Even Notice

Sometimes we might investigate a particular event or action or situation where change has been almost imperceptible or hardly noticeable. We'll explore and find out what the changes were caused by on these occasions. What effect they have had, and other things about the them that have kinda snuck up on us.

Self Development

A lot of time will be spent in Self Development and managing change within our own lives and the minds and lives of others inextricably entwined with ours. Change in every aspect of our daily life will be looked at, discussed, dissected, bisected, rejected and accepted, in all of its aspects over the next months, and as I said, possibly years; right here on career-change-strategies.com.au. Oh by the way did I mention we'll be looking at changing jobs, careers and other things work related? Yes we will. Until next time.

Change is Different

Change is Different

Change is DifferentWe are going to talk about change again today. In it's most basic form it is just another word for different. You wake up one morning to blue sky, wake up the next to clouds. The sky is different. It has changed. The weather has changed. We as humans need to adjust to that change. That difference. These differences can happen in widely spaced time-frames from years apart to a few seconds.

External

Many changes occur in the environment the external world if you will. Mostly you have very little control over these. You need to accept them or not. Your choice.

External changes can be initiated by nature, governments, businesses and other people. Many examples of these occur each and every day. One example - technology. We as a race (the human race) are always on the lookout for something better. Of course better is subjective A value judgement. The outcome of the change might not be to your liking. You might hate the change. Take mobile phones as an example. You might regret that they were ever invented. But here they are. Like em or hate em. That ship has sailed. The change has started and will continue to roll on.

Internal

Other changes are internally driven. They come from your mind. Often driven by a wish to be, do, or have something different. There's that word again.

Action

If we want to have a different body shape, for example, that will constitute a change. But this difference or change will not happen just by thinking about it, in spite of ‘The Secret’ and ‘Manifesting’, and all that. Some kind of action is usually required as well. Perhaps some dietary changes, increased exercise. Action is required with all things if we wish the outcome to be different from what it is currently, to change. These changes are driven by our mind. Nothing else and nobody else controls this. Just our mind. Internal changes again. We do them all the time. Every hour of everyday.

Good or Bad

Good or bad changes or differences are value judgements we make based on the rewards or lack of them that we receive or don’t receive, after the changes have been made.

Change Resistors

It is interesting when you listen to the thoughts of the ‘change resistors’ amongst us who rail, for example, against mobile phone use and the younger set. Their main arguments, or one of them at least, is that these kids don't communicate anymore.

Communication

Of course they do. If they are using their phone to text or use social media they are most certainly communicating. Just in a different way.

Talking

Face-to-face vocal communication is very limiting. You can communicate only one-on-one generally, sometimes small groups. Everyone needs to be together, in the same place at the same time. Whereas the youngsters are mixing it with often large numbers of people of many different ages, religions, races, etc. Many different conversations can be held in very short time-frames with people in large numbers in different locations. This is communication in a much bigger sense then the old one-on-one of talking. Of course they can and often do this larger communication thing, at the same time as talking to friends in the old fashioned way.

Is Change Always Good?

There are many changes like that mentioned above, in the way of doing things, that many among us do not like. They want to revert to older, different times. That word again. Change is not always good - we all know that, (in itself, this is a subjective phrase isn't it?) Tomahto, tomayto; potahto, potayto .

Learn to live and accept change. It is here to stay. See Dan Walsh  - Constant Change Is Here to Stay.

Nightmare Sally – by Renee Pawlish

Nightmare Sally - The Reed Ferguson Mystery Series Book #15 by Renee Pawlish

Nigtmare Sally

Nightmare Sally – really? However, I very much enjoyed this story it rollicked along at a breakneck pace. The main characters were interesting and vulnerable at the same time.

There seemed to be less laid back, laconic bogey style dialogue, but I guess after 15 books you start running out of things to say in that style. Also, I would like to have seen more development in some of the also-ran characters such as Ace and Deuce, who have been there for some time but haven't changed over that period. Not much anyway.

But, that being said this was another good book in this series which met all the requirements; and one that was hard to put down.

Corktown by Ty Hutchinson

Corktown (Abby Kane FBI Thriller book 1) by Ty Hutchinson.

Abby Kane is going to be a part of my life for some time I am sure. This was an extremely good book. Plenty of tension sexual, professional, familial and more, but you'll have to buy the book to find out about that.

Abby Kane - CorktownI spent an hour and a half after I went to bed last night trying hard to shut the book and get some sleep. I just couldn't put it down, until my eyes kept shutting.

The plot is exciting? Yes. Interesting? Yes. Convoluted? No, but mixed up enough to keep you guessing.

The characters were vulnerable, professional, crooked, loving, I don't know, just think about people you know. They were REAL.

And the writing/imagery was really quite fascinating.

What am I talking about? Have a think about this, for example:

“… neighbourhood where everyone’s front yard looked like a public dumping ground. Cars and kitchen appliances were the most popular lawn decorations.”