New Kind of Alarm Clock

New Kind of Alarm Clock

I’ve found a new Alarm Clock. I think. My bladder.

alarm clock

Backtrack

Let’s go back for a moment.

Recently I’ve been following my doctor’s orders (no mean feat in itself) and doing my level best to drink approx 2 litres of water each day. Unfortunately, (or perhaps fortunately as you’ll see from what follows), I manage to finish the last 500ml only about an hour before bed at let’s say 11.00pm.

Right. Now to the point of all of this.

Bathroom/Toilet Call

At somewhere between 5.00am and 6.00am I awake, finding that I need to go to the bathroom/toilet.

Aside: I am a retired chap and don’t have to get up for a JOB, but I have so much to do, I really need to get up not much later than 7.30 to fit it all in.

Anyhoo.

I reckon if you are awake enough to go to the toilet at this time in the morning and not pee on the floor or in the closet, then you are awake. Go ahead and do your Miracle Morning routine (wash face, brush teeth, comb hair, use mouthwash etc) and get on with your SAVERS ritual. If you don’t know what this means, check out the links below.

Obviously, I am speaking as a guy here, I guess it’s not a whole lot different for the ladies amongst us – except for the floor, Oh yeah and the closet – but you get my meaning. You are awake enough to pee, you are awake enough to get up. Damn it, you are already up. Why wreck this and go back to bed?

No Alarm Clock

You won’t need an alarm clock stashed somewhere other than the bedside table, that you have to dash for before all hell breaks loose. You have been doing this (getting up for the bathroom), most of your life, so not waking up a partner is already taken care of.

Back To The Sack

What has been happening to me, until very recently, is that because it is not alarm time – I have headed back to the sack. What occurs about 90 mins later, when the alarm goes off, is the snooze button gets a workout and I end up rising at say 8.00am or 8.30am or something. A late start to my day. Sometimes VERY late and I feel washed out for most of what’s left of the morning.

Do It

Give it a try. Turn off the alarm, drink water about an hour before bed (visit toilet just before sleeping – a 2.00am call spoils the whole thing) and let your body/bladder be your NEW alarm clock. You’ll wake up when you need to; not at some arbitrary time decided by a noisy alarm.

How does that sound?

Give it a go for a few days/weeks and let us all know how it works for you.

Nanna Naps

We can talk about nanna naps another time.

The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod

The Miracle Morning And Your Why

Want More – Be Grateful

Want More – Be Grateful

Two things have come to mind today that we need to talk about.

Why do we often want more? And as the obverse of this coin, why are we not grateful for what we have?

Want More Be GratefulNothing

Just the other day, I woke-up feeling that I wanted to do NOTHING.

For the shortest time, I gave-in to the erroneous belief that I had to do something. Anything. Lying around was not an option.

I considered this, then dropped back onto the bed, snuggled up a bit in the warm and – retrieving my phone from the night-stand, began to follow-up on a few emails that had come in overnight, catch up on Google news and check out a few of the writing groups to which I belong. Ahhh luxury.

Bathroom

It was lovely. Finally dragged my body out of bed about 10.00 in the AM when I could no longer ignore the pressure in my nether regions.

Breakfast

Sorted that out, then dropping in on my favourite breakfast nook I began to heat up the kettle for coffee (a morning elixir I find hard to ignore) and fired up my trusty toaster for my sustenance for the first part of the day.

I didn’t NEED to do anything today, oh yeah I had a lot on my plate so to speak, but it was all of my own making. I wasn’t feeling lazy as such, just disconnected from the need to WANT anything other than what I had.

Want V’s Need

What do I have? All I need is the correct answer. Sure there is more. More money, more friends, more excitement, more meetings, more travelling, more things to achieve etc.

When you boil it down, if more of us were, every now and then, satisfied to just ‘Let It Be’ then we’d all be a lot happier and much more relaxed in our attitude and approach to life.

Change

This is not to say we should not strive to change it up, write something awesome, build a better mousetrap or whatever; but being grateful for what we have right here, right now is a very useful strategy.

Grateful

I am grateful that I am alive and pretty healthy, all things considered, for a bloke approaching 70. (I know a lot of people who do not have the physical agility and mental acuity I still have). I am grateful that I can decide to just stay in bed for another hour or two on my ‘lazy day’; do what pleases me when it pleases me and STILL have enough time and resources to, well, just do it.

What Does It All Mean?

Let’s finish with a kind of a summary of the main points of today’s little piece, shall we?

1. We don’t always have to strive for more, even though change only happens when we do – it is NOT necessary 24/7 365 days of the year.

2. Be grateful for what we actually have (remember a bird in the hand?) and say ‘Thank You.’

3. De-stress by lowering the CONSTANT expectations we put upon ourselves, and luxuriate in the fact that while we may not have it all, we quite possibly have enough. For now.

The Imposter Syndrome Remedy

Out of Luck – Kendall Talbot

Out of Luck by Kendall Talbot

Out Of Luck Kendall TalbotAbout halfway through this book I suddenly thought, “I really want this girl to succeed in her quest”, and then I re-read the title “Out Of Luck” and I was really upset. I was so invested in the characters that I truthfully didn't want to think that they might end up lacking in the luck department. (Most of them anyway. Not the bad guys of course).

Bugger. I can’t tell you any more about that. I’d have to kill you.

As usual, the language was really great. Full of figures of speech. Such as:-

Similes: ‘… built like a fridge’. ‘Waves tossed her around like she was in a washing machine,’

Alliteration: ‘… sad sack of shit’.

Metaphors: ‘The silence screamed in her ears’. ‘Her eyes were flames’.

Then there were the word and sound pictures: ’… fingering the tears from her cheeks’, and the piece de resistance - ‘When you shared sleeping quarters with seven other guys, and one of them could clear the bunks with his rumbling farts, it was not something you tended to forget’.

Right. I can still hear that. Bloody hell.

Of course, there were many more, but you don’t want to read a review full of stuff like that.

All you need to know is. Fantastic work. Great story. Loveable characters, hateful characters. Intricate plotlines that are not too hard for oldies like me to follow.

I often like to include with my reviews a point of improvement. Guess it’ll come to me?

Nah!

Nothing! OK. Forget it.

More, please.

Goddard - Revision

Neville Goddard’s Revision Technique

Neville Goddard's Revision Technique.

Goddard - RevisionGo back and change the past in your mind. See things that didn't go so well; working the way you had planned.
It talks about editing the memories in your mind so that any time in the future that this or a similar situation arises, you will only see the positive result. Kinda interesting. But what does it mean, and how does it work? Is it a scam?

Neville Goddard - Reddit:

Neville Lancelot Goddard was a spiritual teacher and author from Barbados, widely regarded as one of the most influential New Thought and Law of Attraction teachers. He originally came to the United States to study drama and became a dancer, but his study of metaphysics led him down a different path.

The Technique in Detail:

Revision was taken from Neville Goddard’s 1954 lecture, The Pruning Shears of Revision.

1. Review an event that didn't go the way you wanted it to go. Don’t judge it, just review it.

2. In your imagination, rewrite and revise the event the way you wish it would have gone.

3. Get into a state akin to sleep (SATS). Many wonder what this means - it is simply a state where you feel completely relaxed, and can be done in any comfortable position.

4. Relive the revised event in your imagination over and over again, until the imaged state begins to take on the tones of reality. That is until it starts feeling as though it may have actually happened the way you would have preferred.

5. Either fall asleep while repeating the scene or wake up from this drowsy state once you know it is done.

Neville suggests that at the end of each day we revise our day the way we wish it would have gone, then relive the day in our imagination in accordance with our desires until it feels real. Through this method, you can revise any unwanted event, and you will find that in the coming days and weeks, things will start to change for the better in accordance with your revision. (Reddit.com)

Manifesting and ACTION

This is another way of postulating that we should manifest or visualise a desired outcome. It is a tool.
There seems to be quite a lot of information on-line about Revision, including a large number of articles explaining how the technique has worked for the writers.
As in all manifesting/visualising techniques, though, most writers have pointed out that there is a requirement for action. You need to follow the process, but also put steps into place to make it more likely that the required outcome will happen in the future. Nothing happens if you sit on your hands, they say.
It can, some have said, be used to heal and/or repair our bodies as well, by envisioning the event that apparently caused an injury or illness, as having happened differently, and the bad or undesired outcome is not the result. A bit “out of this world”?
Maybe?

Not sure how this meets the action criteria, but we have been told by a very large number of Gurus that ‘we get what we focus on’, and there is, of course, a huge body of literature on both sides of this argument.
But I believe ‘The Revision Technique’ has merit.

Try Revision

As I said, there is a lot of anecdotal evidence that this process actually makes a difference. Give it a go and let us know in the comments how it has worked for you. Or not as the case may be. BUT remember it may not happen overnight.

What’s it all about? We are in Control of our lives!

Ch-Ch-Ch-Ch-Changes

Ch-Ch-Ch-Ch-Changes

With apologies to David Bowie.
I have noticed (isn't it strange how things on our mind come to the fore in other parts of our lives?), a few videos on Facebook about change recently; Mel Robbins & Russell Brand to name just two. And also a large number of posts about life in the sixties and how different - read better, it was. These on Facebook too.

Changes

Green & Growing / Ripe & Rotting

I was reminded of the ‘We either are “green and growing”, or we are “ripe and rotting”. Change is inescapable’, quote (often attributed to Ray Kroc of McDonald’s fame), which I first heard during my coaching training. The bell curve came to me. When we consider we are at the top or peak of our existence ie the 60’s - and we do nothing to keep growing (why should we? This is the best we've ever been?), then we begin to rush down the precipice. Down the slope of the curve. We begin to rot or at the very least not grow.

Best EVER

If the 60’s were the best - everything for the last 60 years has been down hill? Nothing that has changed since then has been worthwhile? Really? This is obviously not true but we often seem to think like this. Our ‘Change is ALWAYS bad’ mindset.

The Past

We can and possibly should, look back with nostalgia, reminisce about what we loved in the past; be excited about our lives and what we did. But we must realise that we only have NOW. The past, as wonderful as it was, (and we only seem to look at the really cool things like playing outside and billy carts for example, while not remembering the great sadnesses of the period), is not going to happen again. It can’t. Things are different now.

NOW

Yep, the past has gone, never to be seen again. The future is as yet unknown - it may never even happen. All we have is NOW. The decisions we make this very moment will decide what we will be, do or have in this future; and therefore, what happens to us for the rest of our lives - no matter how short or long that turns out to be. Check out “The Power of Now” by ‘Eckhart Tolle

Our Choice

We can decide now to be better - or do nothing. Green and Growing or Ripe and Rotting. It is our choice to change if we are not happy, or stay where we are and rot.

CHANGE – Cannot be Avoided

Coffee as an Agent of Change

Nothing Changes By Sitting On Your Hands

The Ego & Positive Thinking

The Ego & Positive Thinking

Today I want to talk again about positive thinking. I've been reading ‘The Power Of Now’ by ‘Eckardt Tolle’ Egoand it is wonderful. He talks about the equality of opposites. What? He goes on - he mentions ego - quite a lot. In fact he maintains that “ego” which we know because of the band Skyhooks; is NOT a “dirty word” is, in fact, the be-all and end-all of our existence. It controls our life completely. If. We. Let. It.

  • The ego must feel good
  • It must feel in control
  • It must feel complete
  • It must have its own identity.

EGO in Control

Let's say you feel depressed. This might be a chemical imbalance in your body, but it might be your ego telling you it's not getting what it wants. This is probably not compatible with what you, the organs etc that make up your body, want or need; but it doesn't matter. The ego will make you unhappy because IT is unfulfilled.

And there is another side to this. If you make efforts, consciously, to be more positive (positive thinking), and to feel better, the ego goes into defensive mode. “Why are you doing this to me?” it says. “Firstly you deny my needs, and now you say you want me to be something different?”

Give up Its Identity

The EGO has identified (and it does this very quickly in most cases), with the depressed you. To become undepressed will require the ego to give up its identity. Of course, it will fight against this positive change you are attempting.

Positive Thinking

Therefore you will say. “Positive thinking doesn't work. I am still depressed. Why am I pretending that all is well when it obviously isn't? I need others to help me.” (ego again - because if others are helping or pitying, or empathising or worrying about me - then I matter) - the ego talking. You will remain depressed because the ego will make it so.

Positive thinking does not, of course, preclude the negative. It does not say, “If I think good thoughts the bad stuff will go away.” It (positive thinking) actually says, ”Learn from the setback whatever it maybe. Don't deny it, but don't dwell on it either.” Meet depression and anxiety head-on. Realize it is an ego issue and make plans to change it.

Two Sides of a Coin

Look at a coin. It has two sides. A coin cannot exist without two sides. One is the main side (the head) the other is the tail. Doesn't matter really, they are the one whole.

Cyclical Nature Of Being

And.

What about the cyclical nature of being. There are ups and there are downs. These just ARE what life is all about. The two sides of our coin. They are only good or bad depending on what your mind tells you. Summer is fantastic if you are a beach type but if you don't like the heat, it is a terrible thing. The worst season.

On the other hand the opposite Winter is fabulous if you are a skier. But a person may feel that the cold is so bad that they may not be able to enjoy winter at all. The worst season.

Wouldn't it be great if you could sunbathe in the cool or ski in the warm, without the extremes?

The cold and heat are two sides of the same coin. They are required. One part cannot exist without the other. Resistance is futile.

The heat and cold are necessary. They are only evil if you let them be.

It is a fact of life but most people's bodies can adjust to the temperature range we experience. That is not to say we enjoy this difference, but it is part of our physiology.

Accept What We Cannot Change

We can help this by being positive about the fact that we cannot change the situation. We could, of course, move around (different parts of the country or different hemispheres), and have continual summer or winter, but for most, that's not possible or practical.

So just let it be. Love where you are. Be positive. Think positive thoughts. Be grateful because, “this too shall pass.”

Ego – A Book Review: A New Earth: Create a Better Life – Eckhart Tolle

What’s it all about? We are in Control of our lives!

Published Author

Published Author

I Am A Published Author

Being a Published Author is supposed to be of great assistance in furthering your career as a writer. I reckon that means you have to tell people about this published bit? Right?

There is a book published in 2015. Success Unlimited The Key to Unlocking the Secrets of Success, Kizzi Nkwocha (Ed), Sussex UK: Mithra Publishing.

Contributors

Sixteen contributors to this book (thought leaders) have all written articles (chapters) speaking to areas of success in which they have expertise.

Many of these people are world renowned and come from varied backgrounds and disciplines. There are entrepreneurs, teachers/trainers, bloggers, psychiatrists, life coaches, business men and women, professional speakers, writers, leaders, marketing and sales executives just to name a few.

Most are from Australia, and among this illustrious crowd, you will find me. Yep. I am a published author.

My contribution is called ‘Beliefs, Rules, Values and Language – Their Role In Your Success’. It can be found on pp.(200-218).

Not Mainstream

You cannot find much of the material in this book in the mainstream, (although the book is available in most great bookstores and online from the various outlets), but that that does not discount the value that can be gained from these insights. The writers are all speaking from real life experience and the information is absolutely top notch.

No Vested Interest

You cannot find this kind of stuff in books by the well-known self-help and personal development writers, because in ‘Success Unlimited the authors have no vested interest in the sales of the book, nor in the acceptance or otherwise of their ideas; their aim is to function as servants, operating out of a wish to share their experiences, successes and sometimes fears, so that others may be better versions of themselves after having read the various articles in this wonderful book.

Nothing Changes By Sitting On Your Hands

Your Success book for Mithra Publishing

Goals, Change and and Process Improvement

A book I recently read about Change, called “Switch” by brothers ‘Chip and Dan Heath’ mentioned some research they had encountered in relation to popcorn - discussing how the size of a popcorn bucket influenced the amount a person would  eat, even if the smallest quantity was more than enough; and more importantly, even if the popcorn was old, stale and horrible.

Why am I failing?

"I've read so many books on goals, taking small steps, creating new habits, affirmations and manifesting - to name a few. Why are they not working?."

 

The conclusion was that it was not people and their popcorn eating habits that ought to be targeted in an attempt toget them to eat less unhealthy food, but the size of the bucket.

It was not, the research concluded, a people problem, it was a system issue.

People or System

Recently I encountered a similar situation. A venue had been established wherein an event would take place that required people to enter, and after a few minutes to complete their business, leave again.

A track had been set up that didn’t work. Staff were required to constantly redirect existing customers to the approved exit, (about 85% of those entering tried to leave in a fashion contrary to the established path). Signs and barriers were amended and moved and added to - all day. It was the opinion of the staff that the people were not very smart if they couldn’t figure it out.

Not A People Problem

In my opinion, it was not a people problem at all. It was an issue of incorrectly allocating the exit and entrance doors.

If they had been swapped around, customers would have been able to move into the area and after doing their business continue to circle to the right (we are predominantly a right-handed society – so this is how we often would go) and then leave by the nearest pathway to the outside. As it happens, the way they all tried to exit anyway, but this time there would be no need of staff to redirect wayward clients, because the normal, natural way to leave would be the way they all chose by default.

It would have appeared in this case then, that almost all people were very clever and were following the signs/barriers erected to help them.

Preferred Pathway

The reason given for the ‘preferred’ pathway, was that it had a ramp for wheelchairs. A great thought, but only 3 wheelchairs entered and left (through the same allocated entrance/exit door) during the whole time the venue was open, but staff were required to direct the errant exiters all day.

Once again, a system issue not a people problem.

Life – Change – System Issue

It started me thinking about myself and how I go about my life. Am I making my life all about me (the person) and ignoring the system? Perhaps the process is wrong? Maybe it’s not a problem with me at all? Am I feeling guilty when it’s actually not my fault, not personally at least?

What do I mean by this?

Perhaps I have set my goals too high? Maybe I’ve not taken the action required to achieve these goals? How am I going to reach this point, make changes I think are necessary for my life? Of course, there’s more than this, but it’s a start, isn’t it?

What Do You Think?

Is a consistent failure to achieve goals a people problem or a system issue? In my case, I use excuses, procrastination, other priorities, lack of time, lack of money etc to stop the progress. Most of the time. What do you think?


5 Key Take-Aways 7 Favourite Self-Help / Personal-Development Books

5 Take-Aways - 7 Favourite Books

5 Key Take-Aways

Soon we will look at 5 Key Take-Aways from the each of the 7 books in the first list of my favourite books, that will be sent to those who already subscribe to my mailing list and, automatically, to ALL who subscribers going forward. Completely free. This post is a teaser. I am not ready to begin yet, the summaries have not been written.

But ...

The first seven books will be as follows: 1. The Secret – Rhonda Byrne; 2. Atomic Habits – James Clear; 3. The Miracle Morning - Hal Elrod; 4. Cheaper By The Dozen – Frank Gilbreth; 5. Switch: How To Change Things When Change Is Hard – Chip & Dan Heath; 6. Think And Grow Rich – Napoleon Hill; 7. The Slight Edge – Jeff Olsen with John David Mann.

Not reviews - Summaries

I have been reading Self-Help or Personal-Development books for many years. The plan for this particular ebook is to give you a summary (not reviews as such) but a list of the lessons I have learnt from these books. I will limit each summary to no more than two pages, so this whole ebook should take 10 to 15 minutes of your time, and will, I hope, give you an insight into each of the books I have chosen. I have included each one of these because in one way or another they have affected my life. Some more than others. Some I remember long after the initial reading, some I only think about every now and then. Some I have read more than once and have rather heavily annotated either in the physical or the electronic versions.

Changed my Life?

To say they have all ‘changed my life’ is somewhat clichéed and probably not completely true. I use many of the principles I have read, often in my life and this is a good thing.

All these books have in some way made some kind of change IN my life. Some minor, some quite major. Change in the way I think or do things rather than the over-arching changing my life situation is what we are going for here.

My Opinion

This list and the views herein expressed are mine alone and this isn't in any way a recommendation that you should buy any of these books. If you do, I might make a small commission (see the disclaimer note). But that is not the point. I want to give you all the same chance as I had to ‘do life’ differently.

Not Self-Help or Personal Development

One of the books in this first list could not be categorised in any way as Self-Help or Personal Development, per se. I first read it when I was about 10 or 12 years old in New Zealand, and I still act, to this day - some 60 or so years later, in ways that I first did when I originally read this book. This is what I mean by change the way I do things.

Alphabetical Order

The lists are organised (and there will be five lists or tranches in all at the end of the series), in alphabetical order according to the surname of the first credited author so there is no hierarchy here. These will all be free and automatically forwarded to current subscribers and progressively to new members of this exclusive group as they sign-up.

There is however a hierarchy in the series - tranche 1 would include books that were more influential in my life than those in the lower tranches. Does that make sense?

Purpose According To The Author

I will start each summary by stating the purpose of the book as postulated by the author; then we will look at my five key take-aways. (Please don't take me to task because your understanding of these key points is different from mine - they are bound to be). Do engage in positive comments. I would love that. You can agree or disagree, it's up to you, but in the end, this is my list. Oh yes.

Five Lists

There will be 5 tranches in all. They will become available over time, as I generate them. Some of your favourite books may make it into this or later lists. And by the way, I am only human and have not read more than a very tiny percentage of books in either of these genres. Some I have deliberately passed over (or ignored), many I have not had the pleasure, nor time, to get to.

Therefore these lists are not ‘all inclusive’, nor ‘exclusive’ – and they do not intend to be. If you know of a book that you believe I should read, let me know. I'd love to read it and perhaps include it in a later - 6th list, perhaps? Or it might push itself up to an earlier list. Who knows? OK?

To Finish

On a final note, as I go deeper into my bookshelves both physically and electronically, I may find books that need to go into a list that I have already completed. Oh well. It will go where it will go. I’ll point out if something belongs higher in the order of things as I come to it. Whatever, as they say.

What Did You Learn today?

Miracle Morning For Writers

The Miracle Morning For Writers by Hal Elrod & Steve Scott

The Miracle Morning For Writers by Hal Elrod and Steve Scott

Sub-titled “How To Build A Writing Ritual That Increases Your Impact And Your Income.”, this is a book for all budding writers.

Miracle Morning For Writers

I am more than ¾ through this wonderful book and have highlights on almost every page. Many pages I ended up tagging the whole page. So many gems. And Links? Did I say Links? Yep, almost every page has links to other resources you can use to add to the information included.

In The Beginning

The first chapter or two contains a run-down of The Miracle Morning SAVERS ritual as espoused by Hal in ‘The Miracle Morning’, and the different perspective is amazing. I thought I understood TMM, but this book gave me new insights, and I hadn’t at that time even reached the point where it actually spoke about writing. I wasn’t disappointed. It was the same only different as my daughter used to say many years ago.

Series

There is a whole series of these books based on different issues Hal figured needed to be addressed, and the best thing about ALL these books is the list of short, easy to follow steps that lead you, inexorably to the result that has probably been eluding you for so long.

Just follow the yellow brick road to success. Steps are logical, common sense, achievable, but they require faith in yourself and in the process, not to mention the extraordinary focused effort necessary to make sure the steps are understood and followed.

Summary

"The Miracle Morning for Writers" combines Elrod's global phenomenon with Steve Scott's proven writing habit techniques (which helped him get on the Wall Street Journal bestsellers list). You learn how to take charge of your morning and maximize "the rest of the day" for your writing efforts.

That is all you need. “Miracle Equation next on my list, then “Millionaire. Can’t wait.

The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod         The Miracle Morning And Your Why

Depression, Anxiety & Compassion

Depression, Anxiety and Compassion.

Finding YourselfCompassion, according to the dictionary (literally “to suffer together”) is: sympathetic pity and concern for the sufferings or misfortunes of others.

Positive Emotion

If someone shows kindness, caring, and a willingness to help others, they're showing compassion. This is a word for a very positive emotion that has to do with being thoughtful and decent. Giving to a charity takes compassion. When you feel compassion for someone, you really want to help out.

Compassion is External

Compassion is something you feel for others or they feel for you. It is, by definition therefore, external to you, or to any person receiving it. That being the case it can not be expected or wished for. And to believe that others OWE you compassion, because of your internal sufferings, is allowing yourself to become a victim of circumstances, a martyr - instead of taking control of your own emotional destiny.

Parallel

At the risk of trivializing the issues of anxiety and depression, which I do not wish to do (I have been there in both cases, and it wasn’t pretty), I would like to draw a parallel for us to think about.

Imagine you were chopping meat or veges for tonight’s dinner (as I was when this thought came to me), and the very sharp knife slips and gives you a really deep and nasty cut to the top of your index finger. Off you go to the hospital. The top of your finger has gone to – wherever these things go when they can’t be saved. (This part is not true!)

Home

After many injections of pain-killers, anti-biotics and stitches as far as they were possible, you are sent home with a huge bandage, a sling and a large number of appointments for plastic surgery follow-ups to reconstruct the tip of your finger.

This injury hurts like hell, makes it extremely difficult to do many of the normal things concerned with family life, and will be with you for the rest of your days. A disfigurement you will carry to your grave no matter what the surgeon does to bring things back to normal.

Hiccough

Dinner is handed off to someone else for this night and a few nights until the pain and swelling become manageable. Then you get on with things. You would, wouldn’t you? This is a hiccough – not a final curtain. You talk about it a bit, well a LOT at first, and answer the many questions, “Yep. Cut the top off. Served it up in the stew, didn’t I?”

Then you more-or-less forget about it and move on. It never goes away, but it does not remain debilitating. You don’t focus on the flat top of your finger, or the few bibs and bobs you need to do differently because of the lack of a finger-tip.

Compassion

You cannot expect people to continue to say how sorry they are for your accident, nor do you think about, nor talk about it all the time. It is just there. You get on with living. You overcome the obstacles, and become the person you need to be, to have and to do the things you want in life.

Easy

Easy. Nope. Not easy at all, the pain can rise up when least expected if you accidentally bang the top of that particular digit, and there are a myriad of things you’d never imagine that rely on finger-tips, especially of the index finger of your dominant hand. But you carry on.

Positive Thinking

Let’s not push the metaphor too far, but finally I want to take a quick look at the positive thinking mantras of a lot of gurus. I don’t believe any one of them suggest that you ignore or deny your feelings, or the existence of bad things, days etc, but what they do say is “You get what you focus on”, so why not focus on the good stuff, the positive stuff and accept that the bad stuff is there, but doesn’t need to define you? Why not do that? Denying your feelings doesn't make them go away. It is not helpful. But nor is focusing on them.

It does not serve you to dwell on them either. Focusing on negative feelings to the exclusion of all else WILL exacerbate these feelings. That is NOT healthy.

Listening

Often a sympathetic, compassionate, listening ear can become empowering in the wrong way. “Gee, if I talk about my problems, people listen.” But that doesn’t really help does it? At the end of the conversation your focus on your issues of depression and anxiety is even larger. And, You get what you focus on”. Have I said that enough?

Advice is not needed, either. Doesn’t help. Friendship might help, but if it is NEEDED, then there is an issue with your own self-love. This for another time?

Conclusion

Finally, feelings of alienation in a depressed or anxious person come from inside you. No one can alienate you. Only you can do that. Choose not to be that person.

Change Your Life for Good PAME Code

The Imposter Syndrome Remedy

Finding Yourself

Job V's Entrepreneur

JOB V’s Entrepreneur

Job V's EntrepreneurJOB V’s Entrepreneur

The other day I was chatting to a person in a retail environment and she was telling me excitedly, how wonderful it was that she had stood in this shop and nobody had come in for 2 1/2 hours. She was so excited that she had done no work for approximately $50 pay. I  mean money for nothing as the song goes.

Money For Nothing

I asked her why that was so important. She said, "I don't have to do anything and I still get paid".

Unfortunately that is the attitude of very many people in the world today. They want something for nothing. And they are usually prepared to settle for only a little something,  as long as they don't have to do anything much for it. The idea that, as an entrepreneur, the pay you get is dependent entirely on the results you achieve is not something they entertain one second's thought about. Of course, many of them claim that the minimum wage is 'not enough to live on', and 'I should get a pay rise for this work. It is hard standing around all day.'

Work For Nothing

The concept that you can work for one or more hours and receive nothing for it, is extremely foreign to them. They don't understand that as an entrepreneur you can work for quite some time for no immediate benefit, but what you have set up, through your consistent efforts, will begin to pay you, massively, at a later date, and on an on-going basis as well. The hourly rate when divided, even by the  total number of hours that have been expended 'working', represents much more than you can ever hope to get as an employee. 

Do Nothing – Get Nothing

As an entrepreneur, if you do nothing you get nothing. NOT now, NOR in the future. Makes sense doesn't it? 

But our instant gratification society doesn't seem to understand that you only benefit from the actions you take. Therefore, an entrepreneur style endeavour doesn't work, and is most likely a scam. 

Won’t Make You Rich

Standing behind a shop counter for hours, doing nothing, and getting a small hourly rate and a bit of superannuation is much better for many people. That's fine. But it won't make you rich. There are not enough hours in the day for that.

Teaching

Our job, as entrepreneurs, is to teach people that the hours we put in and the work we do may not be paid in monetary terms immediately, but the effort is worth it in the long run. Look at people like Richard Branson.

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Miracle Morning and Why #3

The Miracle Morning SAVERS And Your WHY #3

The Miracle Morning SAVERS & WHYMiracle Morning SAVERS and Your Why

Last time we talked about picking a why.

What do we want to change?

We chose grief at losing a loved one and spoke about how we could apply the six parts of SAVERS (well 5 + exercise) to help us deal with the seven stages of grief. It might have been a tad complicated so let's break it down even more. After we have figured out what it is we want to change in our lives, what pain we want to eliminate, what we need to be, do or have to move on to a new life, we need a tool to help us.

SAVERS A Tool

Enter The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod. The SAVERS routine is just a tool. It is a series of thoughts and actions set out in easily understood, easily remembered, and easily followed steps that will lead us to our chosen new habits, customs and beliefs.

While it is recommended that the whole six steps be undertaken daily, seven days a week, before 8 a.m. - that is not necessary for it to work. Sure if you only hit a nail one time, once a week, it will take a while to nail up a plank - let alone build a house.

WHY

Comes back to WHY. If you need or want a house badly enough you'll hit the nail a few more times. Won't you?

A tool doesn't need you to feel guilty if you forgot to use it today, or used it to hit the nail so that it goes in crooked, in fact it (the tool) couldn't care less. The only problem messing with the steps, missing a day, a step or a week; is the length of time it takes to make the routine a habit, and the longer before you get what you really want.

SAVERS Technique

The early morning is a technique to get these new habits all done and out of the way before your day starts when time for this kind of thing is very hard to come by.

If your life is not the 9-5 routine of many of us, then remember this comment. Get it done and dusted whenever you can. The closer you can make the ritual/routine to that outlined in the book, the more likely it will generate the habits etc of which we spoke.

Rinse and Repeat

The number of repetitions must be just that - repeats. If you continue to mix it up every time you do it, it will not become a habit. We are assuming that The Miracle Morning is not an end in itself - just like a hammer or a shovel is not the end result. The point of the whole business is a house or a hole.

Practise

Funnily enough, the more you practise hitting the nail, or digging the hole, the easier it becomes; the better you get at using the tool, and the sooner you reach your goal. Particularly if you continue doing it as closely as possible the same way each time allowing for incremental improvements as you go, of course.

Ease The Pain

We are really aiming for our goal: that is ease the pain of the WHY, or increase the pleasure that you will get eg from your new home. The complete picture then is

  1. Find your why. What hurts you or what pleasure you want.
  2. Choose a tool to help you get to this, in our case The Miracle Morning.
  3. Use the tool, as well as you can, as often as you can, until you reach your goal.

SAVERS Repetition

Remember the repetition business. After say 30 or 60 days the ritual will be so ingrained in your daily life it will be a habit, a custom and a belief system that will continually and consistently lead you to a new 'way of life'. Does that make sense? Yes or yes?

Our tool is something we use to make life easier. The goal is the endgame, not the use of the tool per se.

Please don't feel guilty if you mess up (that in itself is a subjective assessment).

Don’t Give Up

The tool doesn't care. You lose if you give up. The relative urgency of the goal or endgame is what determines the outcome. If you are burying treasure so your friends, or the police, won't find it, you'll use that shovel - rain, hail or shine, day or night to get the job done.

The tool helps, and the hole becomes the first step. Hiding the treasure is the the final result. If you are digging to plant a tree and it's raining, "Oh well, tomorrow will do". Job's still done, just took a little longer.

Not An An End

The Miracle Morning SAVERS routine is a tool to get where you want to be. It's not an an end in itself.

The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod

The Miracle Morning And Your Why

The Miracle Morning And Your Why #2

The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod

The Miracle Morning Hal Elrod

The Miracle MorningI have lost count of how many books I reckon have changed my life. I guess they all have in a way, but none, not one, has had the effect The Miracle Morning The Six Habits That Will Transform Your Life Before 8.00am, has had.

Up at 7.00am

Imagine a book that has ensured retired gent is up at 7.00am most mornings even when there is no real reason to do so? I mean I have no JOB to go to, and very few meetings or appointments in the morning.

Of course, there is a reason, though, many of them in fact. They are all bound up with my WHY. What is my purpose in life and all the good stuff like that?

But this book, The Miracle Morning, and the routine or the 6 habits of the sub-title have resulted in a massive change in my lifestyle.

Early to Bed

Most evenings now, and for the last 60 days or so, I have managed to put myself to bed, to sleep, before midnight. (by about 11.30pm to be exact), and this in itself is a major change. I get about 7.5 hours of restful sleep and then up at 7.00am.

6 Habits

The 6 habits introduced in the book, defined by the acronym SAVERS, take me about 90 mins (adding in the initial glass of water, bathroom stop, face washing, teeth cleaning, mouth washing also included as necessary parts of the ritual in the book). Oh yeah, SAVERS stands for Silence, Affirmations, Visualisation, Exercise, Reading and Scribing. You can read about these in the book.

Then I am ready for breakfast and to kick start the day. I am so grateful for this book and the change already noticeable in my daily habits.

Late Riser

This has added some 2+ hours of useful time to each and every day I complete the routine. For a bloke who used to get up at 11.00am or so most mornings, this is epic. Add it up, my friends. Assuming 5 days per week and 48 weeks per year, that means for the next 20 years, (and at my age that might be all I have) I will be adding ONE extra year to my life. How cool is that?

Extra Bits

As well as the book, there are bonus worksheets, affirmation and visualisation suggestions, a Facebook support group and a book club to join. This book is one of a whole collection. Much much more. See it to believe.

I could go on. I won’t. Just get the book. YOU WILL NOT BE SORRY

Miracle Morning Revisited

Killing Time by Elleby Harper

Killing Time by Elleby Harper

Gee, there's not much you can say about this one without giving away too much. It's a very intricate and very heavily intertwined plot. Can I say there are two ways of interpreting 'Killing Time'?

This is another one of those books that you love to hate. You start reading it in the afternoon and stay up all night to finish. The people that I had an appointment with the next morning were somewhat less than impressed at my sleepy demeanour. But it was worth it. A great read.

One of the many gems from the book. "Kristian hit Times Square and let himself drift along 47th Street towards the motel. The consumerist theme park's blinking neon signs enticed him to spend money."

Miracle Morning and Why #3

The Miracle Morning And Your Why #2

The MIracle MorningThe Miracle Morning And Your Why #2

The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod and your WHY. Previously we spoke about the SAVERS routine and the fact that this is, or can become,  a 'way of life'. We looked at the difficulties and The Guilt involved in making it so.

Other Books to Consider

'Atomic Habits', a book by James Clear will help you with this. As well as 'The One Thing' by Gary Keller. That will also be very useful. They were for me. But 'Start With Why',  'Find Your Why' by Simon Sinek et alia might be the initial answer to your prayers. Have a look. See what you think.

Habits – What Hurts You

No habit can be created, no customs can become part of your new life, no beliefs can be entered into your heart mind and soul, without understanding the following: "Why am I doing this in the first place? What is the point? Where is this taking me? Is there a reason? Why?"

Some writers have even given these letters added information making the word an acronym. What. Hurts. You.

Pleasure and Pain

Let's look at this for a moment shall we? What hurts me? Since we are always looking to gain pleasure or avoid pain according to Tony Robbins, and avoiding pain is predominant, then that is a good place to start. What pain are we trying to avoid?  Loss is a big one. Job, possessions, loved ones, money. That's the Big 4 right there. There are others but we'll stay with these for the moment. Pick one. Loved ones for example.

Loss of a Loved One

To avoid the pain of a loss of a loved one either by death or separation, we need to accept the loss. We can understand this process by referring to the Kubler Ross model (the 7 stages of grief - shock, denial, guilt, anger, depression and finally reconstruction).

Savers and Loss

Let’s apply the SAVERS ritual to each of these stages.

Always starting with a Silent centering 10 minutes. I'll talk with you later about this one. But for now just focus on some physical things like breathing, listening - intently, noticing smells, relaxing parts of the body consciously one bit at a time etc, and the 10 minutes will fly by.

Your Affirmations, the A in SAVERS can positively address each of these 7 stages for one week at a time. Affirming that we understand each stage and that we are going to work out how to deal with it.

Visualising follows this; see and experience in your mind’s eye, a new 'way of life' without the person or people in it. Again, more in a later post. Next is doing some -

Reading about the particular stage with which you are dealing, and then

Scribing/writing for 10 minutes. I recommend this writing be about things for which you are grateful.

Oh. I missed Exercise. I do this myself, out of sequence, at the end, as it energizes me to get off my butt and into action for the day.

7 Weeks

This is a 7-week program for just one chosen WHY. What Hurts You. The loss of a loved one can be a huge WHY.

If you maintain this for let's say, only 5 days per week, we have 35 days of practice. Note I didn't say 'continuously - seven days per week' that is often not realistic. 35 days is just over halfway to establishing a habit. A habit using the newly minted Miracle Morning routine/ritual to bring you to a new acceptance of the grief you are experiencing.

Now repeat this for another 35 days and you will have finalised a new habit. Your Morning Miracle routine will be embedded into your lifestyle. And relating it to a big WHY - loss of a loved one - has given you a tool to use to help you come to terms with, in this case, 'grief'.

Long Term – New Outlook

The long term effects will be a new outlook on life. A new 'way of life' if you will. Life after grief.

The Miracle Morning And Your Why

The Miracle Morning And Your Why

The MIracle MorningRecently I have been thinking about the book by Hal Elrod The Miracle Morning! His SAVERS routine is seen by many as a new 'way of life'. I'm not sure. What is this 'way of life'? The dictionary says: "the habits, customs and beliefs of a particular person or group of people, something that affects all parts of someone's life." So perhaps it is. A 'way of life' that is. A lifestyle.

Monkified

I must admit, I often thought of a 'way of life' as exemplified by a kind of monkified existence. Away from the extravagances of distraction. No electronics, no Netflix binges, no people who are not like minded, and no need to be involved in the basic more material things of life we mere mortals have to put up with. I then wondered, “Who does the bloody dishes, cooks the meals, counts the money, pays the bills with said money? In fact, who deals with the horrific generation of the aforementioned filthy lucre?”

The Miracle Morning and A Way OF Life

I couldn't answer my own questions. Who does? Nup. Nothing. So maybe a 'way of life' is not so esoteric. Maybe it's a much more down to earth. Perhaps it's just habits, customs and beliefs. Therefore The Miracle Morning SAVERS routine is a 'way of life'. But does that make it easy? How do you make it happen day after day week in week out.

Habits

Some research has pointed out that it can take  66 days before a new behavior becomes automatic.

In one study, it took anywhere from 18 days to 254 days for people to form a new habit. Assuming this SAVERS activity is new to you, then new habits must be learned. Customs are easier, I guess. You become accustomed to doing something over a period of time? (the definition suggests a long time), such that it becomes a common practice, a repeated practice, a convention if you will. That'd work. And all of this, together with the understanding that it is good for you and will be beneficial in the long run even without any empirical proof, can make for a belief. Therefore we have a way of life.

Simple

But this does not make it easy. Simple perhaps, but not that easy. It must be kept up for a long time, the SAVERS routine that is, for it to become a habit, a custom and eventually a belief. What does all this mean to us in the 21st century? We have distractions galore. How can this become a 'way of life'? This one hour routine every single morning from now until death do us part?

Life Gets In The Way

It can, is the simple answer. Even when life gets in the way: family, sickness, work, shift work, holidays, travel, hangovers to name a few obviouse starting points. Whenever any of these intrude into the development of your new 'way of life'; your resolve crumbles and you beging to think that a new habit, custom or belief is not forthcoming – therefore, neither is a 'way of life'. How do we address this? So called ‘failure’ for any one day instigates The Guilt Trip Syndrome. I am a lapsed Catholic - we know all about guilt, more than anyone else in the whole wide world. And guilt is a self defeating mechanism. "I missed a day. It'll NEVER become a habit. I am worthless," and in a trice 2.5 weeks of faithfully following the SAVERS ritual falls apart. "Oh dear. No new 'Way of Life' for me."

WHY

But. I figure that there must be a way to move past and through this sense of failure - I missed day, got a letter out of order or missed one letter on a particular day. Or didn't do it all in the morning. It is The Miracle Morning is it not?

There is. It's your WHY.

Change and The Miracle Morning, 

Miracle Morning Revisited

Coffee as an Agent of Change

Coffee as an Agent of Change

Coffee as An Agent of ChangeI woke up this morning with my mind on fire. 6.30 in the am and nothing was going to keep me in bed today. The alarm wasn’t even due to crank out its unrelentingly, electronically shitful, but cheery, clarion call for at least 30 mins, however, I couldn’t wait.

My morning routine beckoned: glass of water (already beside my bed), bathroom, face-wash, clean teeth, mouth-wash, followed by silent meditation. A few other rituals ensued, then some personal development reading before my first writing exercise for the day. The latter at my desk. My computer began its waking up sequence about this time as well. Oh yeah, the writing was, in unreadable longhand, in my A4 project book with the 18mm dotted lines. A joy to behold.

By now I was getting excited about what I had prearranged for the day the night before. Spreadsheets to be filled out, emails to be written and answered, planning for a number of undertakings my crazy brain had served up for me during the night which I was now recalling. In great detail. Breathe.

OK. Pause.

It had been like this for a few months now, ever since I realised that there were only 20 years left. I mean, 20 years before this frenetic lifestyle I wished to lead might not be possible. I keep thinking of new adventures I want to have, new places I must see, new ideas I find continuously cropping up which beg to be explored. New music to listen to. New theatrical ventures to pursue and, yes, many new articles, blogs and even books I just have to write.

So much to do. So little time, goes the cliché.

Let us begin.

Oh My!

One of the issues with having so much going on in a brain, is where to start? What happens first? Sorting, culling prioritising – many tasks each seeming to have a mind of its own, calling out. Me first!

I started. It was a bit like pushing your hands into the balls in the Tattslotto sphere and pulling out a number. OK. That’ll do. Let’s make that the first one.

And so it continues.

You know when you meditate - how you seem to spend most of your time catching thoughts as they propel themselves across the sphere of your mind? How you struggle to keep the external world from ruining the moment?

It’s a bit like that with me and my mental madness. All attempts to keep a single focus fail. I start a task and another muscles its way onto the floor. “Too much”, I cry.

Another rumble in the nest of balls. Another idea to follow-up. What about this one? Oh yes! A new shiny thing. Something else to end up not completed. Another thread to catch as it flutters in the breeze of nothingness.

Suddenly, a loud insistent whistling sound permeates the air. I breath again, and to myself, I sigh. The realisation hits me. It is, finally, time for coffee.

Career Change Strategy

Career Change Strategies

Career Change

Plan

A Career Change Strategy is just that: a plan relating to changes in a career.

Does this mean changing a job? What is a career anyway?

What is a Career?

We need to establish this before we talk about change. A job is, simply put, swapping time for money. Jobs can be short-term, long-term, highly or lowly paid, contract or direct employment. They can be based on love or just expediency. They can require a lot, a little, or no training and or experience. But, I guess, the main differentiator is passion. A career is something that a person follows because they really LOVE what they are doing and consider it more than ‘just a job’.

Short or Long

A career is almost always long-term, but not always as a self employed person, and not always with a single employer. Careers are usually, if not in one’s own company or as an entrepreneur, involved in the same or similar industries. A career in IT for example may span, over time, a number of different companies, some small, some large, and sometimes even departments within larger companies where IT may or may not be the core activity.

Career Change is A New Path

A career change perhaps suggests a new path. Something different from that which you have been pursuing for the last period of your life. A new job perhaps; but more than that. A new kind of work is being undertaken. A new passion being followed. From IT to engineering for example. That kind of change will likely involve more training, but that should not be an issue since it is only too late to begin something new when you cease breathing.

Career Change Strategy - Some Ideas

A career change may involve moving from employment to contracting, or starting a business, or following an entrepreneurial bent in a new direction. There are many ways to see this happening. Moving into speaker or training mode in the same industry segment as a previous career is an example.

If a career minded person was to take on the task of, say,managing various groups as a new business eg, as an agent or a procurer for their current career choice, that could well be a career change while they remain within the boundaries of their current path.

Add to The Mix

One of the other options is to keep doing what you are doing but add something else into the mix. Sometimes referred to, somewhat unfortunately, as a ‘Side Hustle’. Network Marketing is an example of this.

The Muse

Another idea many people have been known to follow is the muse. It has been said we all have a book in us. Fiction or not. But a book none-the-less. It's probably true, as each one of us has had, or is still having hopefully, a unique path through life. Our own life experiences: sadness, happiness, disaster, adventure, success, failure, training, jobs, careers, people we've known. Perhaps events we've been part of, things we’ve owned etc and there is something in all of that which makes for a great story, which can be just entertainment or even a learning experience we’ve had that we might feel the need to impart to others. It's true. Everyone has something to say.

But how do you make this happen?

Ways To Make This Writing Change Happen

There are many webinars, online courses, live seminars for example dedicated to make this happen. Some promising a book in 48 hours. Over a weekend retreat. Lots of books have been written about how to make it happen. And, of course, electronic publishing (self publishing) has become a viable option. Amazon has created a massive opportunity for many of us (options even include training videos) and a real career change might be to write that story. Get that book out of you.

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CHANGE – Cannot be Avoided

Kindle Best Seller Publishing

Kindle Best Seller Publishing by Gundi Gabrielle

Kindle Best Seller

Kindle Best Seller Publishing. Can I just say wow? 200 pages of step by step information.

I’d Like To Give This One 7*

Almost overload sometimes, but it's not like a lecture you can go back and read it all again. I will be. I very rarely give 5 stars for a book, and I read approx 6 books every week, but I’d like to give this one 7*.

There is a resources page on her website, as well.

Links

And almost every one of the 200 Pages includes a link to an extra resource on this page. Did I say wow?

The Guts of Kindle Publishing

I mean it. Wow. This is one of the best books I have read in the how to: genre. You are taken on a journey into the guts of Kindle Publishing.

The plan is to publish a best seller in the next 30 days, and Ms Gabrielle covers almost every minute of every hour of everyday in those 30 days. Detailing what you need to be thinking, doing, researching etc. It is masterful.

Traps For New Players

Every step is covered, including traps for new players, and if there's anything missing here, I would be very surprised.

I haven't gone down this path yet, but I feel I could, and I reckon that if I ever got lost this book would help me. Easily. A book is now on my list for 2019.

You Need To Read This Book

If you have ever, ever thought of becoming a published author, you need to read this book.

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