Starting a Successful Blog when you have No Clue: Gundi Gabrielle – A Review

Starting a Successful Blog when you have No Clue: Gundi Gabrielle

Successful BlogThis book has been completely rewritten and it shows.

I have pages of notes and my new website (blog) is now close to being finished. The information contained in this book and the free video lessons make it an absolute winner.

It spans the gamut of newbie to seasoned user and is easy to follow.

I love it and you will too.

Double Jeopardy by Aime Austin – A Review

Double Jeopardy by Aime AustinDouble Jeopardy

There’s a new word in the lexicon.
Pantsfeelings.
Cool yeah? I won’t tell you any more. You’ll see when you read it. The book gives a new understanding to Double Jeopardy as well.
I enjoyed this story and the character of Casey Cort is so engaging. I love that she is a girly girl AND a blokey bloke. It is a refreshing vision.
A couple of issues from a previous book in the series were resolved and the ending is something I had not expected.
Great work. I’ll be chasing up more from this author.

On Writing by Stephen King – A Review

On Writing by Stephen King

On Writing

Recently I read an extremely cool little book by this famous author.

It covered a fair amount of biographical data that was very interesting, enlightening, educative, and insightful. Now that sentence probably violated many of the writing rules the other parts of the book covered.

But the book is well structured, easy to understand and entertaining, as you’d expect from ‘The Man’. But it is still a learning exercise. I found out about stuff I have not heard of before. Like: your tool box with 4 levels. Vocabulary in the top tray, along with Grammar.

Some examples: He advises against using the passive voice. Ever. Well hardly ever. Adverbs also fit into this, use them VERY rarely, category. And then there’s dialogue attribution. (If you don’t know about this; there’s a great reason to find and read this lovely little book). He notes that this later bit of construction when aligned with an adverb is called a Swiftie after author Tom Swift. And should once again NEVER be used in GOOD writing.

It is an amazing book. I loved it. Please find it and read it. Only takes an hour or so and your writing life will never be the same.

Australian Fires 2019-2020

Australian Fires 2019-2020

I was having a conversation, the other day with an American friend who was quite worried about my welfare. (Thanks Mark – much appreciated – I am very grateful for friends like you even all the way around the other side of the world).

He was hoping that we were OK and safe from the fires etc in Australia in January 2020.

It seemed that the media was reporting that Victoria (The Australian State in which I live) had been evacuated.

Evacuation of Victoria

Malacoota FireHmmmmm. This is actually not likely nor possible. It is very hard for us living in vastly different countries to understand the various sizes and other attributes involved.

Let’s have a look.

The Size Situation

Victoria, the smallest mainland state in Australia, is approx 92,000 sq Miles in area. This is just a little bit smaller than the American State of Oregon, and a little bit less than twice the size of New York State. Victoria has one major city, a few smaller cities, approx 10 minor cities, some hundreds of large country towns and settlements, (I live in a town of 4,500 people some 2.5 – 3 hours drive from Melbourne the major city). And there are LOTS of smaller settlements, farms and (hamlets shall we call them?) all over the place.

New York State has a population of just under 20 million people, whereas Victoria has approx 6.4 million. So you can see mass evacuations would really not be likely. We could move people around a bit if really necessary, but evacuations – in general, No.

Current Fire Situation

The current fire situation on my side of this huge country is mainly in the State of NSW and the North East of Victoria (near where I live – about 30% of the small State and mostly in uninhabited mountain or hard to access country) and spreads toward the Eastern Seaboard. But it is still not an issue here apart from a lot of smoke that comes and goes. Not yet. It may become so before the season concludes at the end of February.

Now while this is nothing short of catastrophic in so far as the amount of bush or forest, that has burned, (an estimated 26 million acres; 107,000 square kms; 41,000 sq miles - that’s approx the size of New York State again); it has destroyed over 5,900 buildings (including over 2,204 homes) and killed 28 people as of 8 January 2020, there is more. (Note that with our population density so low – 28 people is a LOT.) And it is ongoing.

Animals

The biggest issue is an estimated 1 billion animals that have been killed and some endangered species may have been driven to extinction.

Perspective

Arguments as to causes and mitigation strategies, political or otherwise, are not my concern here. But hopefully, this puts things into perspective.

Navy

However, not in my 70 or so years down here at the bottom of the globe, have I heard of Navy ships being called in to evacuate a whole town (which was almost completely destroyed by the way) from the beach/sea where the residents had all congregated in an attempt to stay alive.

I guess that was a mass evacuation. Normally 1,063 people live in that town increasing to about 10,000 during the Summer (Christmas) holiday season.

No one there now. They are all at emergency stations in Melbourne.

Facts

Often the media doesn’t take into account all the facts. Sometimes they don’t know all of the facts. Consume with care.

Cruise Like A Pro

Cruise Like A Pro – A Complete Guide To Carefree Cruising by Robin Gail

Cruise Like A Pro

A lovely little book. I have been on 5 cruises and still found some stuff I didn’t know.

This is a must purchase (softcover) to slip into your pocket or purse when you are actually on your cruise of a lifetime. It will save arguments and ensure you have the best time ever, avoiding most of the traps. So full of positive Tips’nTricks as well. All in a short readable and interesting book.

A bit like the old almanacs sailors used to carry to keep them aware of what was going on, you will use this many times on your cruise.

The 60 Min Startup

The 60 Minute Startup: A Proven System to Start Your Business in 1 Hour a Day and Get Your First Paying Customers in 30 Days (or Less) by Ramesh Dontha 

60 Min StartupHave you ever had a book jump off the desk, put on it's running shoes, grab you by the arm and drag you along into its world? This one does that and at a frenetic pace too.

I worked with the agile methodology when I was still in that corporate world, and there were some things I didn't understand until I read this book. It is amazing.

I also love the way he started each chapter with an actual case study a name and what this person did or didn't do that illustrates the point of the following chapter. I couldn't wait to turn the page to see what the story was going to be this time.

If this does not change the way you view your life and your work, then I'm not sure where that leaves you. This is an exciting book.

Braving Change

For those who enjoy Who Moved My Cheese - November 16, 2019

Braving Change

Change is unavoidable and it seems to get harder to deal with the more I fight it.

Braving Change has let me look at change through different eyes. My resistance has been worn down through the author's words of wisdom.

For people who enjoy Who Moved My Cheese, this book keeps you on track to embracing change and all that it offers.

Amanda

Braving Change – Colin Rochford

Braving Change - Colin Rochford

Reviewed By: Mamta Madhavan

5 Stars

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Change is constant

Change is constant but there are many people out there who feel intimidated by change and find it difficult to accept change.

Braving Change: 5 Steps to Overcoming your Fear of Change and Facing Life with Joy (Change Series Book 1) by Colin Rochford gives an insightful view of the concept of change and gives confidence to readers to accept change instead of resisting it. The author delves deep into the concept of change and speaks about overcoming the fear of change, understanding the fear of change, what can be done, and how to move forward with a different outlook. It is a good book to help readers realize that the concept of change is not new and there is no need to be afraid of it.

Methodical

The author tackles a relevant subject methodically and practically, making it easy for readers to connect with his words as they navigate and welcome the changes in their lives. The book will give readers a way of understanding why change happens and will also tell them how often 'bad' changes can also have silver linings. It is definitely a good book to help one look at change with a new outlook and welcome it with an open mind.

Five Steps

The 5 steps to overcoming the fear of change are helpful when it comes to making change easier to accept. The author's style is simple and neat, honest and straightforward, making it easy for readers to understand and apply the advice in their lives. I am sure, like me, that readers out there must be waiting for Book 2.

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How to Stop Overthinking Charles P Carlton

How to Stop Overthinking - 8 Proven, Practical Techniques to End Anxiety, Stop Negative Thinking, Overcome Worrying and Live a Healthier, Happier Life – Charles P Carlton

Powerful CoverStop Overthinking

Wow. This book started with an extremely POWERFUL cover design. Loved it.

Much of what was covered, I thought I knew, but as I continued I realised that’s my problem. If you think you know stuff you never learn anything. When you talk you say things you know, but when you listen, that’s when the magic happens.

Magic

Thanks, Charles. You magician you.

I began to read this book with my ears wide open and the gems just kept on coming.

Mindfulness

The chapter on mindfulness made it worth the purchase of the whole book. It was masterful. The style of writing was informative firstly, but more importantly, it was contemplative, calming, meditative and relaxing. I loved the info but also the very feel of it. It was well done.

Powerful cover, great message, inspired writing style? I’d say it had it all.

Depression, Anxiety & Compassion

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Eat That Frog Brian Tracy

Eat That Frog – Brian Tracy

A short book in the procrastination genre. Not to be missed.

One thing I notice as I read the many self-help books available out there is the fact that they are all as special as the people reading them.

Resonate

Some resonate immediately and qualify for the “Changed My Life” comment. Some you need to read again and again.

And some hit a note that you are absolutely sure you have heard/read before, but never seemed to quite hook onto.

Hook

This book was the hook for me. So simple, straightforward and beautifully crafted. Hardly a wasted word. He does repeat “Eat That Frog” a few times, but that was necessary. Well, it was for me.

You just need to keep right on reading each new book until one smacks you in the forehead as this one did for me.

OMG. Yeah. Now I get it. Why did I put it off for so long?

CANI

Then keep right on reading – because why would you want to stop learning? Continuous and Never-ending Improvement.

Thanks, Eat That FrogBrian. I get it now.

 

 

 

 

Writing Everyday

Writing Everyday

WritingWriting, journaling or scribing as Hal Elrod calls it in The Miracle Morning, is the final task in the SAVERS morning routine.

Daily Thoughts

The idea is to put down on paper with an actual pen or pencil some thoughts, on a daily basis. Hal Elrod gives you a number of options in an attachment to his ebook, but the problem seems to be that many of his (shall I Call them disciples?) don’t seem to be able to figure it out. What to write, I mean. How to write for the 10 minutes the ritual calls for.

Not your Guru

I don’t profess to be any kind of guru, but I do not seem to have a problem with this task.

Now I reckon this might be because of a number of things that I have read and done, not because I am all that clever.

Write a Book

Firstly, a few years ago I started down a path to write a book. I had no idea what to write about; fiction or not, and not a single notion how to start.

Somewhere I read about a website where you write, electronically, 500 words of anything – often utter drivel - and publish it either in a folder on your computer, or if you were feeling brave on the website or Facebook group. I can’t remember now. I did a bit of both. But the idea was not to write anything of value, just to churn out 500 words (more or less) and leave it at that. Even the stuff published on the web was not to be read, just to prove that you had written it.

The Artist’s Way

Then, not that long ago, I found another really exciting book called “The Artist’s Way” by Julia Cameron. In this book, Julia extolled the virtue of what she called ‘Morning Pages’. The idea behind this again was to write in longhand ANYTHING. Yeah, there were some clues given, but the most exciting and most useful to me as a writer was the need to completely remove yourself as a person writing the material, from the actual result. It wasn’t easy. Took a lot of time to get it to happen consistently. Many mornings writing for a defined number of minutes. Many mornings missing out. But the whole process was just that. A process.

Writing as a Process

In earlier times when I was working, I was a process manager. What happened in any manufacturing process, was that if you put the correct bits and pieces in, carried out the same routines, each and every time, then a result would occur, that was very consistent. Nothing else to it. No emotion. No connection. Just input, action and output.

What am I saying here? Simple. Begin by sitting somewhere quiet and without any distractions, put pen to paper and write words. Don’t lift the pen or even think too much. It’s like meditation. You need to empty your mind of all thoughts and emotions and just let the moving finger write. You will end up with a result.

Raw

Don’t read it back. Don’t edit. Just put words down on paper and off you go. Next task for the day. Job’s done. This is the most important part.

Stuck

It has even been said that if you get stuck just write, “I am stuck. Do not know what to write.” and keep up that until something shakes out. As you are not reading it and there is no point to the writing, other than the actual act of writing, there is no loss, no foul.

No point to the Writing

You did it. Good on you. After some days, weeks, months of this, you might find you can give it some structure and actually write something like I am doing here. But it just flows. This is NEVER the point so don’t stress. Is there a time when structure should take over? NO. If it does. Cool. If not cool too. The whole point is to just write. Period.

Imaginative Story Writing

I did a bit of imaginative writing today – no gratitude, no journal, no diary – a story of sorts. I started with a sentence about dreams. My intent was to follow-up on a discussion I had been involved in the day before with a lady, from the paranormal arena. It didn’t down go down that path at all. It was a story about coffee and a new detective, and a new relationship and an exploding front door. Dunno why. But the same PROCESS was involved. Just the writing, nothing but the writing.

Reptile Brain

There is a direct link between the thinking conscious brain and the hand or keyboard. You need to break that and take the brain out of the equation. Write from the reptile part of your brain if you like. Straight from your hand to the page.

No connection to any actual thinking. After a while it is easy. Must be done every day, though, so as to keep up the momentum. Only 10 minutes. How hard is that really? Well, it is hard. But keep at it.

Writing today

I started writing this the same way. It is not literature but is over 800 words and most of it makes some kind of sense.

Writing Every Day – Journaling

The Teacher will Appear

The Miracle Morning

The Teacher will Appear

The Teacher Will Appear

When the Student is Ready the Teacher Will Appear – Tao Ti Ching.

Early Writing

For approx 50 years, maybe more, I have wanted to be a writer. When I was at teachers’ college in Dunedin N.Z. and we went on a family holiday to the resort town of Queenstown, for a lot of the time I stayed indoors much to the chagrin of my parents who had saved mightily for this holiday.

It was beautiful outside with the lake sliding off to the right below our holiday home and the magnificent range of mountains across the water, ‘The Remarkables’ changing colour and texture as the sun moved around.

But I was writing. A bit of a children’s story for a college assignment. Can’t remember what it was about, but I knew I was hooked on this writing thing.

Still Thinking

Many times since then I have thought about writing. Have a few chapters of a mystery novel set in Melbourne somewhere. I have the beginnings of a short story featuring a Sherlock Holmes of the like you have never heard. And, a few years ago, I had an article actually published as a chapter in a book edited by Kizzi Nkwocha. All through this time I have written stuff that has been published on websites I have owned, never to be seen again.

The Universe

As in everything, there is a plan to The Universe and a ‘way’ that cannot be subverted.

And our friend Tao Ti Ching above has it in one. My route started with a book called “The Miracle Morning” by Hal Elrod. I read this wonderful book and joined his Facebook group.

Making Sense

Suddenly things that had started in High School, Teachers’ College, and then University made sense.

Suddenly all, the self-help gurus I had seen, like Tony Robbins for example, and all the teachers I had met online or through their fantastic books, like Julia Cameron with her ‘The Artists Way’; all their teachings began to fall into place.

Daily Writing

I began to write daily 500 words or more each time and this became consistent. I sometimes even read back the result.

Many Teachings

I had been following many different teachers writing about how to write books, I have about 10 ebooks and at least 4 real books telling me how to do this, but not until I had my eyes opened up by Hal, did things begin to gel. I then read a book by Gundi Gabrielle and found a Facebook group lead by Emee Vida Estacio and that’s when the magic happened.

Follow The Plan

I began. I followed the plan, the process, and I now have a book. I am working on the final edits and I have a cover designed. In a week I will be ready to finalise formatting and organise a launch team – the book tells you how to do all of this and the support from the FB group is outstanding.

Before long I will be ready to press the go button and upload the whole shebang onto the Kindle Publishing site, set the promos running and Bob’s your Uncle.

I am so excited.

Book Sales, not the Reason

And you know the whole point of this was to become the kind of person who could write and publish a book. The actual result of this (the book) is not really important. If it sells, great. If it tanks, great. I will have achieved my goal whatever that particular result is.

Grateful

I am very grateful that the teacher appeared when I was ready to get the message. Took 50 years, but it was still worth it. Trust The Universe. Trust the process.

It can work for you too.

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How To Overcome The Fear Of Change

How to Overcome Fear Of Change

FOC not FOMO, but Fear Of Change. It is a thing, and it even has its own word. Metathesiophobia.

Fear Of Change

Breakfast

We all like routine. Hell, I have the same 3 pieces of grain bread toast every morning. Lashings of ‘unhealthy’ butter, 2 slices with honey and one with vegemite. (Yeah, well I live in Australia – so sue me.)

The need to feel in control – and this is very often what routine is all about - is built into our physical and mental predispositions.

When you are finished changing, you are finished”

Benjamin Franklin.

And it is true. We need to accept that change is a necessary part of life. To not do so can lead to panic or anxiety attacks; it can become a full-blown phobia when it is irrational, persistent and intense.

FEAR

Someone once said to me that FEAR is an acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real. You have probably all heard it – it is almost a cliché now, but let’s look at it in a bit more depth.

False Evidence

This usually comes from stories we tell ourselves based on the flimsiest of grounds and in many cases not true, not logical and not even slightly constructive. We fabricate stuff and believe our own stories even when they are obviously not real.

Phones And The Younger Generation

Here’s an example. Those who are afraid that our children will fail to learn socialising skills because they are always on their phones and not talking to each-other. Yeah? You’ve heard that one? What do you think they are doing on their phones? Most of them are not playing games. They are messaging friends, often several at once, occasionally from many different towns, cities or even countries. Isn’t this communicating?

Different

Is it different from the way we used to do it? Yes, of course, but it is a good change? I think so. Wider communication networks, and an instant (not having to wait for weeks to send and receive actual mail) connection. They can even take pictures and share them with friends all over at the tap of a finger on a screen.

Social Media

Yes and what about social media? Is it good or bad? Guess it depends on what you mean by good and bad. We used to SHARE our opinions using letters to the editor columns in magazines and newspapers. Sometimes on talk-back radio. (that in itself was a change from earlier communications not available to us until radio was invented and came into general use). But we don’t talk about that now do we? We just say kids are doing it wrong.

NO. They are not. They are just using NEW technology to do things differently.

Like we did. All those years ago.

Appearing Real

Change is inevitable. Listen to the stories you tell yourself that Appear Real to you because you repeat them so often.

Sisyphus

It is a fact that the brain has great difficulty in differentiating what is real from what is imagined. Seems to be same. And if you tell yourself these false stories often enough you will believe them and then you will resist change, and you become like Sisyphus trying to push the rock up the hill. You will fail and be crushed in the process.

Book

I have a new eBook coming out at the end of September addressing this situation. It will be published on Amazon.

It is called: “How To Overcome The Fear Of Change”. And it will give you some in-depth reasons why we might be suffering from this affliction, and some practical ways to avoid this crippling state of affairs. It even includes a ‘Call To Action’ that everyone can use.

Fear of Change eBook

CHANGE – Cannot be Avoided

Atomic Habits by James Clear

Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. Tiny Changes, Remarkable Results. A revolutionary system to get 1 per cent better every day

Atomic HabitsPeople think when you want to change your life, you need to think big. But world-renowned habits expert James Clear has discovered another way. He knows that real change comes from the compound effect of hundreds of small decisions – doing two push-ups a day, waking up five minutes early, or holding a single short phone call.

He calls them atomic habits.

In this ground-breaking book, Clear reveals exactly how these minuscule changes can grow into such life-altering outcomes. He uncovers a handful of simple life hacks (the forgotten art of Habit Stacking, the unexpected power of the Two Minute Rule, or the trick to entering the Goldilocks Zone), and delves into cutting-edge psychology and neuroscience to explain why they matter.

These small changes will have a revolutionary effect on your career, your relationships, and your life

My 5 take-aways

  1. Goals are about the results you want to achieve. Systems are about the process that leads to those results. As a side note: There are no good habits or bad habits: only effective habits. Ask the question, "Does this behaviour help me become the type of person I wish to be?”
    1. If you want better results, then forget about setting goals, focus on your systems instead
      1. So James Clear says “Fix the inputs and the outputs will fix themselves”.
      2. Create a system of ATOMIC HABITS. An atomic habit is a little habit that is part of a larger system.
    2. Outcomes are about what you get. Processes are about what you do. Identity is about what you believe.

I am focusing on creating a habit of writing. Focussing on who I wish to become. A writer. What about you?

  1. Every belief, including those about yourself, is learned and conditioned through experience
    1. What do you want to stand for? What are your principles and values? Who do you wish to become?

We need to take a deep dive into our psyche (might need a life coach?) to understand what this means for us. What/who do we believe we are? Start by completing the values questionnaire that you will find on this page. It is a great start to finding out what you believe about yourself. Some core values from Mr James Clear.

  1. The 4 laws of behaviour change are as follows:
    1. Cue (Make it obvious), Craving (Make it attractive), Response (Make it easy) Reward (Make it satisfying).

I won’t go into these in much detail. You’ll need to read the book, but suffice to say, you can use these 4 laws to guide you through the minefield of issues standing in the way of your success. Any success. Business, personal, emotional, financial – whatever.

Note that the inversion of each of these rules can be used to break ineffective habits.

  • Take the cue from something you WANT, really want, and make it, in your mind, really obvious that this is the way you need to go. Lose weight for example.
  • Then convert this into a craving. Make the whole deal attractive, ie kinda like WHY you want it. To be the best looking guy/girl on the beach. See it. Feel it. Smell it. Hear what people say. You know what I mean.
  • Respond to these feelings by taking action. For this to happen – it must be easy. No one will do anything for long if it is tedious. This is where small comes in. Start with having only half a glass of wine with dinner or half a serving of dessert. (If weight loss is your goal).
  • Finally, you need a reward. (Not another chocolate biscuit) Think of something you really like, say an extra hour in bed with a good book? Something that will make you feel good. Do it. Don't miss it. This is very important. That’s it.
  1. Use triggers to help you. If that happens- do this. Do things at a specific time each day. (I write 700 words each morning before breakfast. Doesn’t matter what I write it is the process that counts.) Then try stacking one habit upon another. After I do that – do this. Make the environment work for you. Put pill bottles next to your bed, for example, so you’ll get into the habit of taking your pills before you go to sleep.

Remember the 2-minute rule. When you start a new habit, it should take less than 2 minutes to do.

  1. Finally, Surround yourself with people who have the habits you want to have yourself. Have an accountability partner or mentor. This is a fundamental law of personal development.

There is much, much more. The book is full of lists, exercises, references and stories to which we can all relate. Look for the paper clip strategy for example, and see how it can work in your life. A strategy about habit tracking.

Management thinker Peter Drucker is often quoted as saying that “you can't manage what you can't measure.” Drucker means that you can't know whether or not you are successful unless success is defined and tracked.

Check out the Goldilocks rule. What the? Yep, it's a real thing. Look for it in ch.19.

Summary

Make one small change and repeat it over time. A new habit will be formed, almost un-consciously. This is awesome stuff.
Read ‘The Slight Edge’ by Jeff Olsen and David Mann.

5 Key Take-Aways 7 Favourite Self-Help / Personal-Development Books

Writing Every Day – Journaling

Writing Every Day – Journaling

JournallingI find I don't think about my daily writing task all that much. I just start writing and it kinda flows. I don't have an agenda, although I sometimes, like today, reflect on a conversation I had a few days ago and wonder what I did/said that was capable of improvement. What that improvement might look like, and what I am going to do going forward to address the situation.

Sometimes I just talk to myself - often a bit like a teenage girl’s angst-ridden diary sorta thing (pretty cool from a 70-year-old gent). Often I do grateful stuff. Things I am grateful about today. You know, simple things like the sun is out. Often a bit deeper, like I am glad I am alive and can actually see that the sun is out.

Structure

There isn’t much structure about what I write. Sometimes it is rambling, sometimes an article I have been wanting to write, often a reflection on my day or days and occasionally even a kind of a loose planning session in my head for the days or weeks to come.

Every now and then I decide to write something directly from my imagination – a piece of pure fiction if you will. In this case, I make up, remember or am reminded of during my morning meditation, a word or phrase, and this becomes the beginning of the opening sequence of a story in the making.

An example might be, “I wonder what it would be like if the sky really did fall on chicken-licken?” Then off you go. Stream of consciousness.

The Artist's Way

“The Artist's Way” method I have read and often spoken about works. This is from the book by Julia Cameron and is a masterclass in discovering how to unlock your latent creativity in many areas not only writing, and how to make your dreams a reality.

Julia Cameron leads you through a program to recover your creativity from a variety of blocks, including limiting beliefs, fear, self-sabotage, jealousy, guilt, addictions and other inhibiting forces, replacing them with artistic confidence and productivity. It links creativity with spirituality.

Practice

It was quite some time ago that I figured if I was going to be a writer then I needed to practise the craft.

You see, you need to exercise this writing muscle of yours and it needs to be a daily occurrence. I work on doing it at approximately the same time each day, but as long as it has become a habit you will feel really bad unless you do it. And habits don’t really take that long to develop.

I always do it in longhand in a foolscap book, and once the pen hits the page it doesn’t leave until the time is finished. Oh, didn’t I say? I allocate 10 mins every day to this task.

No Overthinking

I never overthink this writing task. Nor do I read what I have written back. When that happens it shits itself and I can't continue. When the 10 mins I allocate to this each day is up. I stop. Just like that.

Published Author

What Did You Learn Today?

Terror by Ty Patterson

Terror by Ty Patterson

Terror - Ty Patterson

As with all other books by this author, I approach this one with glee. I loved it. The storyline was tight and interesting. The characters were well developed and I was able to engage with them in a way that made reading the book a joy.

I was a little disappointed, no that's too strong a word - not quite sure; How can I say it? I expected that I would be more frightened, more scared of the consequences. Although I was completely immersed in the story the terror didn't grab me as much as I would have expected.

There was one instance where passive voice was used and I felt it needed to be more active. I had to read the line several times to understand what was being conveyed.

But that being said it was an amazing book and I stayed up late at night, later than I should have, reading it. Thank you very much.

Out of Luck – Kendall Talbot

Out of Luck by Kendall Talbot

Out Of Luck Kendall TalbotAbout halfway through this book I suddenly thought, “I really want this girl to succeed in her quest”, and then I re-read the title “Out Of Luck” and I was really upset. I was so invested in the characters that I truthfully didn't want to think that they might end up lacking in the luck department. (Most of them anyway. Not the bad guys of course).

Bugger. I can’t tell you any more about that. I’d have to kill you.

As usual, the language was really great. Full of figures of speech. Such as:-

Similes: ‘… built like a fridge’. ‘Waves tossed her around like she was in a washing machine,’

Alliteration: ‘… sad sack of shit’.

Metaphors: ‘The silence screamed in her ears’. ‘Her eyes were flames’.

Then there were the word and sound pictures: ’… fingering the tears from her cheeks’, and the piece de resistance - ‘When you shared sleeping quarters with seven other guys, and one of them could clear the bunks with his rumbling farts, it was not something you tended to forget’.

Right. I can still hear that. Bloody hell.

Of course, there were many more, but you don’t want to read a review full of stuff like that.

All you need to know is. Fantastic work. Great story. Loveable characters, hateful characters. Intricate plotlines that are not too hard for oldies like me to follow.

I often like to include with my reviews a point of improvement. Guess it’ll come to me?

Nah!

Nothing! OK. Forget it.

More, please.

The Broken Mother By Thomas Fincham

The Broken Mother By Thomas Fincham

The Broken Mother By Thomas FinchamWow, another great read from this author who gets better and better with every outing. Hard to talk about this without giving away too much, but the plots were interesting, engaging, exciting and not too complicated for an old fart like me. The language was fabulous. characters were great. The story really raced along.

I like to try and suggest something for improvement each time I do a review. Can't think of anything for Thomas this time.

Thank you very much. I really enjoyed this. As I said before, I want to be Lee Callaway.

The Falling Girl by Thomas Fincham

The Ego & Positive Thinking

The Ego & Positive Thinking

Today I want to talk again about positive thinking. I've been reading ‘The Power Of Now’ by ‘Eckardt Tolle’ Egoand it is wonderful. He talks about the equality of opposites. What? He goes on - he mentions ego - quite a lot. In fact he maintains that “ego” which we know because of the band Skyhooks; is NOT a “dirty word” is, in fact, the be-all and end-all of our existence. It controls our life completely. If. We. Let. It.

  • The ego must feel good
  • It must feel in control
  • It must feel complete
  • It must have its own identity.

EGO in Control

Let's say you feel depressed. This might be a chemical imbalance in your body, but it might be your ego telling you it's not getting what it wants. This is probably not compatible with what you, the organs etc that make up your body, want or need; but it doesn't matter. The ego will make you unhappy because IT is unfulfilled.

And there is another side to this. If you make efforts, consciously, to be more positive (positive thinking), and to feel better, the ego goes into defensive mode. “Why are you doing this to me?” it says. “Firstly you deny my needs, and now you say you want me to be something different?”

Give up Its Identity

The EGO has identified (and it does this very quickly in most cases), with the depressed you. To become undepressed will require the ego to give up its identity. Of course, it will fight against this positive change you are attempting.

Positive Thinking

Therefore you will say. “Positive thinking doesn't work. I am still depressed. Why am I pretending that all is well when it obviously isn't? I need others to help me.” (ego again - because if others are helping or pitying, or empathising or worrying about me - then I matter) - the ego talking. You will remain depressed because the ego will make it so.

Positive thinking does not, of course, preclude the negative. It does not say, “If I think good thoughts the bad stuff will go away.” It (positive thinking) actually says, ”Learn from the setback whatever it maybe. Don't deny it, but don't dwell on it either.” Meet depression and anxiety head-on. Realize it is an ego issue and make plans to change it.

Two Sides of a Coin

Look at a coin. It has two sides. A coin cannot exist without two sides. One is the main side (the head) the other is the tail. Doesn't matter really, they are the one whole.

Cyclical Nature Of Being

And.

What about the cyclical nature of being. There are ups and there are downs. These just ARE what life is all about. The two sides of our coin. They are only good or bad depending on what your mind tells you. Summer is fantastic if you are a beach type but if you don't like the heat, it is a terrible thing. The worst season.

On the other hand the opposite Winter is fabulous if you are a skier. But a person may feel that the cold is so bad that they may not be able to enjoy winter at all. The worst season.

Wouldn't it be great if you could sunbathe in the cool or ski in the warm, without the extremes?

The cold and heat are two sides of the same coin. They are required. One part cannot exist without the other. Resistance is futile.

The heat and cold are necessary. They are only evil if you let them be.

It is a fact of life but most people's bodies can adjust to the temperature range we experience. That is not to say we enjoy this difference, but it is part of our physiology.

Accept What We Cannot Change

We can help this by being positive about the fact that we cannot change the situation. We could, of course, move around (different parts of the country or different hemispheres), and have continual summer or winter, but for most, that's not possible or practical.

So just let it be. Love where you are. Be positive. Think positive thoughts. Be grateful because, “this too shall pass.”

Ego – A Book Review: A New Earth: Create a Better Life – Eckhart Tolle

What’s it all about? We are in Control of our lives!

Published Author

Published Author

I Am A Published Author

Being a Published Author is supposed to be of great assistance in furthering your career as a writer. I reckon that means you have to tell people about this published bit? Right?

There is a book published in 2015. Success Unlimited The Key to Unlocking the Secrets of Success, Kizzi Nkwocha (Ed), Sussex UK: Mithra Publishing.

Contributors

Sixteen contributors to this book (thought leaders) have all written articles (chapters) speaking to areas of success in which they have expertise.

Many of these people are world renowned and come from varied backgrounds and disciplines. There are entrepreneurs, teachers/trainers, bloggers, psychiatrists, life coaches, business men and women, professional speakers, writers, leaders, marketing and sales executives just to name a few.

Most are from Australia, and among this illustrious crowd, you will find me. Yep. I am a published author.

My contribution is called ‘Beliefs, Rules, Values and Language – Their Role In Your Success’. It can be found on pp.(200-218).

Not Mainstream

You cannot find much of the material in this book in the mainstream, (although the book is available in most great bookstores and online from the various outlets), but that that does not discount the value that can be gained from these insights. The writers are all speaking from real life experience and the information is absolutely top notch.

No Vested Interest

You cannot find this kind of stuff in books by the well-known self-help and personal development writers, because in ‘Success Unlimited the authors have no vested interest in the sales of the book, nor in the acceptance or otherwise of their ideas; their aim is to function as servants, operating out of a wish to share their experiences, successes and sometimes fears, so that others may be better versions of themselves after having read the various articles in this wonderful book.

Nothing Changes By Sitting On Your Hands

Your Success book for Mithra Publishing