Last time we talked about picking a why.
What do we want to change?
We chose grief at losing a loved one and spoke about how we could apply the six parts of SAVERS (well 5 + exercise) to help us deal with the seven stages of grief. It might have been a tad complicated so let's break it down even more. After we have figured out what it is we want to change in our lives, what pain we want to eliminate, what we need to be, do or have to move on to a new life, we need a tool to help us.
SAVERS A Tool
Enter The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod. The SAVERS routine is just a tool. It is a series of thoughts and actions set out in easily understood, easily remembered, and easily followed steps that will lead us to our chosen new habits, customs and beliefs.
While it is recommended that the whole six steps be undertaken daily, seven days a week, before 8 a.m. - that is not necessary for it to work. Sure if you only hit a nail one time, once a week, it will take a while to nail up a plank - let alone build a house.
Comes back to WHY. If you need or want a house badly enough you'll hit the nail a few more times. Won't you?
A tool doesn't need you to feel guilty if you forgot to use it today, or used it to hit the nail so that it goes in crooked, in fact it (the tool) couldn't care less. The only problem messing with the steps, missing a day, a step or a week; is the length of time it takes to make the routine a habit, and the longer before you get what you really want.
The early morning is a technique to get these new habits all done and out of the way before your day starts when time for this kind of thing is very hard to come by.
If your life is not the 9-5 routine of many of us, then remember this comment. Get it done and dusted whenever you can. The closer you can make the ritual/routine to that outlined in the book, the more likely it will generate the habits etc of which we spoke.
Rinse and Repeat
The number of repetitions must be just that - repeats. If you continue to mix it up every time you do it, it will not become a habit. We are assuming that The Miracle Morning is not an end in itself - just like a hammer or a shovel is not the end result. The point of the whole business is a house or a hole.
Funnily enough, the more you practise hitting the nail, or digging the hole, the easier it becomes; the better you get at using the tool, and the sooner you reach your goal. Particularly if you continue doing it as closely as possible the same way each time allowing for incremental improvements as you go, of course.
Ease The Pain
We are really aiming for our goal: that is ease the pain of the WHY, or increase the pleasure that you will get eg from your new home. The complete picture then is
- Find your why. What hurts you or what pleasure you want.
- Choose a tool to help you get to this, in our case The Miracle Morning.
- Use the tool, as well as you can, as often as you can, until you reach your goal.
Remember the repetition business. After say 30 or 60 days the ritual will be so ingrained in your daily life it will be a habit, a custom and a belief system that will continually and consistently lead you to a new 'way of life'. Does that make sense? Yes or yes?
Our tool is something we use to make life easier. The goal is the endgame, not the use of the tool per se.
Please don't feel guilty if you mess up (that in itself is a subjective assessment).
Don’t Give Up
The tool doesn't care. You lose if you give up. The relative urgency of the goal or endgame is what determines the outcome. If you are burying treasure so your friends, or the police, won't find it, you'll use that shovel - rain, hail or shine, day or night to get the job done.
The tool helps, and the hole becomes the first step. Hiding the treasure is the the final result. If you are digging to plant a tree and it's raining, "Oh well, tomorrow will do". Job's still done, just took a little longer.
Not An An End
The Miracle Morning SAVERS routine is a tool to get where you want to be. It's not an an end in itself.