Loneliness Is …
I have become increasingly concerned about the number of people professing loneliness in our society. Particularly amongst those over the age of 55.
I have rarely felt lonely (as I would define it – see below) in my life, so this is a difficult concept for me to come to terms with, but it is obviously ‘a thing’. What does it mean? What can we do about it? Is it an issue we need to deal with?
This blog is an attempt to address these issues.
Loneliness Is … Alone & Lonely – What is the difference?
Some info from The Webster Dictionary:
1a: being without company: LONE
1b: cut off from others: SOLITARY
2: not frequented by human beings: DESOLATE
3: sad from being alone: LONESOME
4: producing a feeling of bleakness or desolation
1: separated from others: ISOLATED
2: exclusive of anyone or anything else: ONLY
3a: considered without reference to any other
3b: INCOMPARABLE, UNIQUE
What does this mean?
To me it seems that some of these words are related to feelings and some are related to facts.
So, our next questions then must be: what is a feeling and what is a fact?
Let’s start with a fact.
Webster says that a fact is something that truly exists or happens: something that has actual existence,
a true piece of information
So I guess that means if I am standing by myself, in isolation from other human beings, then I am alone.
That is a fact. It is verifiable. There is no one else in the area.
Emotion - Feeling
A feeling, on the other hand, is not a fact by this definition above. It is
an emotional state or reaction
often unreasoned opinion or belief
sympathetic aesthetic response
Fact V’s Emotion
Loneliness is therefore a belief, something created by the mind? Is that what we are saying here? I am feeling sad. Why? Because I am alone. A feeling, a reaction or response to a fact.
How does this work? What does this mean in real life?
Emotions - Feelings
Thus, loneliness is an emotional state of being whereby we find ourselves unhappy and feeling sad because of the LACK of human interaction.
Being ALONE is the same thing, really, without the emotional business. Does that make sense?
Can we change one into the other? Would we want to?
In order to answer some of these questions and more, I have set-up a FB group called Loneliness is….
There will be a couple of confidential questions before anyone can join this group, and then it would probably be useful if those questions were asked and answered again on the open/public forum after a person has been approved to join the group.
This is totally optional, of course. You can join and just observe the conversations.
Let’s deal with this together. Let’s sort out what the issues are and work towards mitigating this question in our society.
I am talking about my hometown - where we can do stuff or talk about stuff face to face; the greater Melbourne Australia area where both face to face and electronic connections can be arranged; and then Australia and the world where we can use social media and other electronic means to meet and communicate. There is not even a need for any excuse that we don’t live in the same time-zone for example. I promise to make myself available as the need arises. This is such an important subject. I’ll be there for you if necessary.
The questions? OK. Here they are.
- What does loneliness mean to you? Definition, I guess. 1 sentence only please.
- How does loneliness affect you in your normal everyday life? 1 sentence only please.
Head on over to Face Book and join the group. Answer the qualifying questions and then, when approved, repeat your answers (if you feel you want to) so we have a basis to start a dialogue with you.